Anything and everything magnetic about ourselves starts with self-awareness. The wisdom of “Know Thyself” as the very essence to any personal growth or personal empowerment we may be seeking goes back to the early days of Socrates and continues throughout history. Taking stock and learning what your true strengths and weaknesses are, how you’re perceived and received, what you value and what holds meaning for you, and how effective you are must be an ongoing priority when ‘being the chooser’ in your life.
For example, let’s take a look at your love life. How many times in your past, did you find yourself in a relationship simply because the man pursued and chose you? You didn’t consciously choose him, but because it felt so good to be loved and adored you gave in. Sound familiar? I guarantee that relationship didn’t last or if you’re currently in this type of scenario you’re not as happy as you could be or would like to be.
It’s tricky. Many women I speak to think they know themselves really well, yet still have limiting stories or a false sense of self that ‘runs the show’. It’s hard work to dive deep within and it takes incredible courage and commitment to be honest and non judgmental in conscious reflection. Each of us develops masks and survival strategies to make it through life, starting as young children, and those patterns are not necessarily our greatest strengths. If you’re reading this, you probably know this to be true, and my guess is that you’ve probably “been around the block” a few times in that you’ve probably already have done some personal and professional development work on yourself. I love this because it allows us to go deeper together and get right into the juicy stuff!
So let’s cut right to it. The reason self-awareness is so critical for our magnetic presence is because the truth is that becoming a powerful woman with integrity can be a painful journey. It requires peeling off layers and looking deep within, then making the necessary changes to keep growing into who you want to become. This internal reflection and self-knowledge is core to who you are as a woman. It is a must because when you stop growing as a woman, everyone around you, and your relationship itself will stop growing. In other words, the growth of a partnership is often in direct correlation to the growth of each individual – and I believe that a woman holds all the power in a relationship.
What this looks like for a woman is self-love, self-acceptance, and self-honesty.
Think about how you feel and what you exude when you feel good about yourself. When you feel good in your skin, love who you are, and accept the good, the bad, and the ‘not so pretty’ without judgment, blame, shame or guilt. You learn to embrace your shadow side, the stuff you wish no one would ever see, the stuff you may have tried to shrink or deny, as well as your magnificence. When you accept and love yourself, the effect you can have on others’ as a woman in her power is extraordinary. People will feel whole and appreciated in your presence. They’ll be inspired by what they see as possible just by seeing who you are. They’ll learn and grow by your example.
The key to self-awareness is learning to make peace with you.
We all have inner demons, those inner qualities we wish no one would ever see, things we’ve failed at, things we hold against ourselves, inner voices and self-talk we use to either push ourselves forward or hold ourselves back. The key is to find peace within and do the inner work that it takes to achieve this.
This is not about being perfect, but it is about being in progress and doing the work. It is also about bringing compassion without self-judgment, because otherwise it’s self-defeating. This is where the true courage is required.
With this level of personal commitment and bravery, the reward is beyond compare. As a woman, this creates a level of confidence and competence that oozes out of you, and other people feel it. That’s core to being successful and to being fulfilled in life and in love. When you are serene and can actually laugh at yourself and feel great about who you are as you share with the world your full potential, you’re a better version of you…your mastering the art of feminine presence.
Self-awareness translates into self-love, self-acceptance, and self-honesty. The key is making peace within you.
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