Life is full of commitments. Many are kept and more are broken.
This afternoon I you can find me sitting a local coffee shop sipping a lukewarm cup of coffee -it is later in the afternoon and the coffee is not so fresh, but I do find it comforting nonetheless.
I had a plan to meet someone here to connect and have a meaningful conversation about life, but they cancelled. The only reason I knew they weren’t able to make it is because I sent a message a few hours ago letting them know I was looking forward to seeing them and in response to my message they let me know “Oh, by the way I can’t make it I got called into work.”
Well, I showed up anyway, because I’m like that. I keep my commitments. Why? I believe it’s because I don’t want to let myself or others down. I don’t take it personally when someone doesn’t keep a commitment to meet for coffee, but it does make me stop and think about how crazy busy and over committed most people are in our society.
So here I am committed to myself and this time that I carved out of my day for connection and a meaningful convo. Luckily you are getting this inspired blog post because this busy person is not preoccupying my attention and unfortunately they are also missing a damn good cup of lukewarm coffee.
So back to commitments. What anchors a commitment on your busy schedule? So that without even thinking twice about it you show up and honor what you intended to do in the first place – regardless of what’s going on in the moment. What are your requirements for keeping a commitment? What I mean is that it is non-negotiable and you are there no matter what?
And what is are the disruptors that cause you to sway and get uprooted in your commitments? What are the “good enough: excuses that you’ve used or have heard others use?
Here’s a few:
I got called into work.
I have to pick up the kids.
I need to run home and feed the dog.
Something came up.
I’m running too late,I think I will pass.
My partner surprised me with tickets to a show.
I’m not feeling well.
So what are you committed to in your life and why? What do you commit to that you know with an absolute ‘YES’ that you will be there through hell and high water?
AND What do you commit to that’s a ‘meh’, I’ll go if I feel like it? Is this even a commitment?
Maybe not, but some food for thought I guess. My coffee is now more cold than lukewarm. I have kept my commitment to myself to be here in the moment and engage in a meaningful convo – even if it is only a monologue at this point in time.
Hey! Thanks for listening!
In closing…I do encourage you to be aware of what you are committing to in your life. The truth is that if you are not able to keep your commitments to YOU, then unfortunately you’re eroding your own self esteem.
Be Bold. Be Brilliant. Be YOU!