Archive Monthly Archives: June 2018

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Claiming The Lead To Make Stuff Happen

Claim The lead In Your Life

Embody Your Personal Power

This year I’ve been 100% committed to doing whatever it takes to fully embody my personal power. And I have to warn you, be careful for what you ask for!

It was my willingness to get uncomfortable and do the work that I uncovered a deeper meaning.  In short, to inspire other women to claim the lead and make stuff happen!

Stand In Your Truth

To me, this means being BOLD and standing in your truth no matter what. It’s exploring where and how you position yourself in your life, on any given day, in any given situation or circumstance. Likewise, it’s knowing how you respond and navigate your life when things seem to be unfolding in your favor and when they are clearly NOT going your way.

Here are a few questions for you to consider for yourself:

WHAT…

Fires you up?

Makes you angry?

Are you passionate about?

Is it that you really want?

Are your deepest desires?

Do you keep avoiding?

Take 100% Responsibility

These are important questions to ask yourself. You must take 100% responsibility for your life. Therefore, I believe you can lead from anywhere, even when you are in the role of follower.

Yes even when you are following you can lead, it’s simply a shift in your mindset. You do this through connection. By staying connected all the way through the conversation, the dance, the project, the relationship, whatever it is. You get connected by first becoming centered in your own core. Then from there you can feel, and think your way through the events of your day, week, month or year with exquisite awareness.

Commit To Being Your Best Self

Becoming keenly aware of how you feel in any given moment. This allows you to be guided internally by what is radically true for you. When you can stand in your truth you’ll have a much easier time course correcting, especially when life throws you curve balls. Here’s a little secret…life will throw you curve balls!

It’s not about experiencing a perfect life with no adversity. It’s about how you RESPOND to the adversity. How you show up and the choices you make is what matters most. I encourage you to stay committed to being your best self today and everyday.

Your Mess Is Your Message

I learned this the hard way and my own mess became my message. I felt flat on my face skinned my knees, scraped my hands broke a few bones, and suffered extreme heartbreak in the process.

Firstly, this face plant took me to a place of total defeat, deep despair and a dark scary place inside. Secondly, I was full of uncertainty and I had no idea how I would get up and climb out of this hole. Further, I had no where to go, but to surrender to being face down in the dirt. Moreover, it was from here things started to shift.

Shift Your Energy

The shift came from inside from the pain that ran so deep it pierced through my bones. I felt as if I could only take sips of breath, between the waterfall of tears that washed over me. I felt helpless, hopeless and disoriented while sitting in this dark fiery pit of despair, yet at the same time, I discovered something that would change my life forever.

In this place of darkness where I could barely breath was a spark of light. I began to feel a swell of warmth rise up from inside of me and suddenly my heart burst open! Feeling like I could breathe again and became hopeful and energized. I tapped into a reserve of energy that from that moment forward, I relied on to heal. To feel, move and shift my energy in order to find my way out of this dark hole.

Reach For Relief

Meanwhile I reached for relief and found the right resources to help me stand on my own two feet and become grounded once again in my truth. I had experienced a huge breakthrough, an awakening and a deep knowing that this was my time to heal. To take all the pain from my past, all the old stories that played like a broken record in my head and transform it.

Like the alchemist, who never loses hope and teaches that when a person really desires something, the whole universe will conspire to help that person realize their dream.

I was so ready to take a step in the right direction and get back on the correct course . Particularly, after being thrown from the saddle and landing face down in the arena. Beck in the flow and aligned with my true self, I felt UNSTOPPABLE. My desire was strong become the leader of my life and take 100% responsibility for how I wanted to feel, moment-to-moment, day-to-day, week-to-week, month-to-month and year-to-year.

Make It Happen

This is why I am dedicated to help other women tap into the wellspring of their inspiration and claim the lead in their life. Above all, to stop chasing shiny objects that promise happiness, and put and end to repeating negative patterns that keep them stuck in old stories that they’ve out grown.

When you claim the lead in your life you learn to tune into your deepest desires. You also tap into a reservoir of vitality that allows you to make sh*t happen!

I would have never experienced the rise in my strength without first being completely paralyzed in defeat. In conclusion, trust yourself and do whatever it takes to dig down and tap your inspiration to claim the lead.

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5 Steps To Grow Out Of Deep Despair

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How To Grow Out Of Deep Despair and Uncertainty

Deep Despair

Have you ever watched an important relationship in your life fall apart? Leaving you feeling intense emotional pain, physical heartache and despair?

Given the extreme distress of this situation, what got you through it?

Was it drinking wine with your girlfriends or sobbing home alone on your sofa? Did you distract yourself with other things like work, netflix binges and chocolate ice cream?

How long ago did this happen to you? Does it still bother you even though it happened several months or years ago?

Nothing But Heartache

Whether your heartbreak is recent or it occurred decades ago. If you haven’t fully healed from this experience, it can negatively impact your health and well-being. It can cost you more heartache and even shorten your lifespan. It can rob you of the joy you know you deserve. The relationship you long for. The one you have been wanting to attract. Yet without much success, despite your efforts to move on from your past.

Lessons In Disguise

Not every romantic relationship you are in will work out the way you had hoped. However, every relationship that you have been in holds significance in your life. Broken relationships are not failures, they are lessons in disguise. In order to grow from these lessons, we have to be willing to look at our part in the madness. We must also take the time to heal. Letting go of the old stories that we hang on to so we can be free from our past.

The sooner we can let go of the old stories we keep telling ourselves, the quicker we will be able to move forward in our life. Because, we will no longer be renewing the negative thoughts and feelings associated with it.

Stuck In Old Patterns

I have worked with thousands of men and women who have remained stuck for years. Stuck repeating the same relationship mistakes that have prevented them from feeling fulfilled in love. This has led to a life of feeling alone, depressed, anxious and even suicidal. It has also been a catalyst for chemical dependency and addiction.

Personal Growth and Healing

The breakdown that occurs after a significant relationship in your life ends, regardless of the circumstances, does not need to leave you in a state of despair for very long. It can actually be a catalyst for deep transformation and personal growth. The key is to be able to move through the pain and discomfort in such a way that allows you to expand and grow from the inside out.

Unfortunately, what many people do is try to bypass the pain, by jumping into another relationship or reaching for bright shiny objects to distract them from the pain. This only provides short-term relief with no healing benefits. Unfortunately, neither of these options provide true relief or healing, if anything, it prolongs the emotional pain and sets one up for further heartbreak.

5 Steps To Move Forward

There are 5 steps that you must take after a relationship breakdown in order to move forward in your life and feel amazing. The prerequisite for these steps, however, is to be ready, willing and able to let go. To be unattached to the outcome and to stop beating yourself up for being in the position that you now find yourself in. It’s time for you to stand up and begin the next chapter of your life, and this chapter is now yours to create.

Step 1: Reclaim Your Power and Passion

When a relationship falls apart it becomes a sudden event that immediately grabs your full attention. While time is of the essence, it’s important to avoid making rash decisions.

In order to even consider what is next for you, you must take time to review and do some evaluation in order to make thoughtful judgments regarding your life so you can in turn make confident choices. As you begin to reclaim your power, purpose and passion, hold on tight, because things now move into high gear! It’s important to stay grounded as you may feel off guard as uncertainty sets in. Feeling good about yourself is essential for healing right now.

Step 2: Get Back In Touch With Your Heart’s Desires

In order to ignite your heart’s desires you must transcend the feeling of entrapment that is coming from anxiety that’s not actually based in reality. You must learn to adopt a more positive perspective on this situation. Rather than focus on the material things in life you must recognize that you are trying to fill an emotional void with a physical need when what you’re really craving is inner peace.

You are stronger than you realize and you can handle your current situation, however, instead of powering through it, you’re better off with an approach of compassion, kindness and gentleness towards yourself. The truth is that, your inner strength and effectiveness increase as you believe in yourself and your ability to grow from the experiences you have in life. It’s essential that you take responsibility for your actions, with that you can expect positive changes to occur in your life.

You will begin to enjoy new opportunities as they present themselves and you take the leap with the knowledge that everything will work well for you. Old blocks are lifting and everything now moves forward quickly. Although recent or past events shook your faith, you now see how they were actually positive for you.

Step 3: Re-prioritize Your Purpose

You’ve probably got too much going on at once and you’re feeling stressed. Everyone experiences times in their lives when they’re afraid or insecure. Sometimes these fears are based on external factors you can see, and sometimes worries stem from irrational or unreal concerns.

In both cases it’s important to go within and listen to your intuition as to what to do next. Trust your intuition and trust your guidance. Embrace this period of self-awareness to overcome past blocks that have held you back from living your purpose. It’s your time to awaken to truths about yourself that you’ve kept hidden, and see your brilliant light.

You’ll soon be on your way to feeling a sense of contentment, peace and abundance. You’ll be able to safely navigate your way through the obstacles to a place you can feel proud of as you seek stability and commitment to a better life.

Step 4: Recharge Your Radiance

Your relationship breakdown has been a wake-up call for you to make some life changes. This may be a new revelation or something you’ve known but have been procrastinating about. It is now that you realize that this situation can’t be ignored and action is necessary.

This is a moment of both freedom an awakening. The way you see yourself and the world has forever changed. This brings you growth and encouraging you to spread your wings. These new insights give you motivation to embrace the path of your heart’s true desires.

Communication with your higher self is key right now because it’s important to develop trust within yourself. It’s time for you to make clear decisions. You must remove anything or anyone from your life whose presence no longer serves your greatest good. To recharge your radiance you have to let go of working too hard, because there is a need for balance in your life.

Slow your pace to a more comfortable level. Allow your stress levels to come down a few notches. Begin to let love in, in a way that brings you joy, expansion and deep relaxation.

Step 5: Align Your Actions

You are self-reliant and wise. This hasrepared you for this time in your life to take it easy and enjoy some luxuries. Your own company is valued and you find peace and contentment in your quiet alone time. Pursuing deeper meaning in life is important to you and you retreat inward for inspiration. At the same time it’s important to cultivate logic, discipline and order right now.

Your dreams need guidelines and organization so that they can manifest properly. Believe in your ability to feel empowered and take a leadership role in your life. Focus on things that involve your passion and carry them out to your best abilities. This is your time to create something beautiful or of high quality. Stay alert to new possibilities.

Change is inevitable and can bring newfound sources of abundance. Align your actions by remaining open to new and exciting opportunities. Stop giving into fear-based thoughts that limit your actions.

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Key Strategies To Create More Joy on Your Road To Success!

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This is picture of me at the Summit of Fremont Pass, which is 11,318 ft. I road my bike up here on a blue bird day with my sweetie. It’s was an incredible experience and I can’t wait to do it again!

Your Success

I want to talk about YOU and YOUR SUCCESS in your work, life and in love…

I believe that everyone wants to feel successful and be successful, but we don’t all know how to actually become successful.

Here’s the truth, the utter definition of success is “joy in this moment”. That’s right, how much joy you can feel in any given moment is your barometer for success. You don’t need to suffer on your evolutionary trail.

The journey to joyful is a choice. You need support to help you stay inspired. And to not fall victim to your inner gremlins that want to rain on your success parade and feel good moments.

Above all you need support for when you do run into tough times. They are inevitable for your personal growth and expansion and for your capacity to become more joyous and successful.

Joy In The Moment

Remember the utter definition of success is “joy in the moment”. You create more joy in your life by choosing thoughts that give you greater satisfaction.

Seek Guidance

In the process you must stop renewing your relationship with doubt, fear and all those other dissatisfying thoughts that keep you running the same old programs in your life. This gives you the same old results that you’ve been complaining about for all these years.

My clients’ come to me for guidance on how to address their biggest issues. They share with me the places where they’re stuck. They need help seeing what they can’t yet see to finally find a resolution.

Gain Clarity

There are three things that I can help you clearly see, and they are:

#1 Know the pattern that you’ve been stuck in. The one that’s been robbing your joy and feelings of success and how to get out of it.

#2 Exactly what you can do to shift out of this pattern and start creating more satisfaction in your life.

#3 Be inspired, motivated and in action even when life presents obstacles along your path.

How do you get out of the pattern that you’ve been stuck in? How do you stop it from robbing your joy and blocking your success?

Positive Thinking

Positive thinking is essential right now. Your own obsessive, negative thoughts are the true culprits behind the trouble you fear. Turn your attention to the amazing possibilities for the future. Leave the past behind.

How can you quickly get unstuck and create more satisfaction in your life?

Take Risks

Allow yourself to completely embrace new adventures that present themselves. In addition, be willing to take risks in order to follow your dreams. If you want to change your life, do it now. Now is a great time for a fresh start. Remember to stay inspired, motivated and in action even when life presents obstacles along your path.

Seek out mentors and like-minded friends. Connect with supportive new people who have integrity. People with a strong moral compass is key to your ability to move forward and to stay committed to your dreams and goals.

Leap Forward

What’s required to take a great leap forward?

A great leap forward requires self-discipline, self-control, determination and the willingness to go the distance. The truth is, you’ll experience challenging situations that need to be successfully balanced. Stay calm, grounded, and be clear about what you’re trying to achieve. Bask in the joy of what you’ve accomplished!