ACHIEVING SUCCESS AND WORK-LIFE BALANCE
As a licensed mental health professional who has fully transitioned into life and career coaching, I work with people who are more interested in designing a future rather than getting over a past.
Clients who want to live their life more fully, both personally and professionally, value having a personal coach. Because of this, professional men and women and entrepreneurial small business owners hire me because they want their vocation to reflect their values.
In professional business life, there is always a need to improve upon communication with co-workers and customers. There is also a growing recognition that relationships in the workplace are important to the success of the company or business. There is a strong emphasis on emotional and conversational intelligence in the work environment because the bottom line of a company or business can be improved if the employee’s communication and function as a team learn to work well together and resolves conflict early.
As a former Marriage Therapist, this is also important in our relationships. How we emotionally connect and communicate with one another is critical for long-term success and satisfaction in growing a healthy marriage.”
INTENTION AND IMPACT BOTH MATTER
A large part of working well together requires establishing mutual trust. When conversations trigger fear, we become defensive. Careerists who only focus on their intentions and neglect to see their impact are not aware of how their words can cause others to react with fear and seen as insensitive to other’s feelings. The ability to connect intention and impact is innate to all human beings, yet some people focus more on their plans and fail to see the impact they are having on others. When we can connect intention with impact, we develop a high level of sensitivity to others, and we pay more considerable attention to our words and conversational impact.
When we increase our emotional and conversational intelligence, it strengthens our ability to connect and collaborate with others and gives us more successful outcomes and growth. If we only focus on our intention, we can often hurt others because it activates our ‘fight, flight, freeze, appease’ impulses. When we have established rapport and mutual trust in a conversation, we have an intention to communicate, and therefore we connect. As a result, the impact is positive, and we are more honest and candid about our communication, as well as more vulnerable and open to sharing.
GROW YOUR AUTHENTIC CONFIDENCE
When we are more open to sharing, our confidence grows. Confidence is essential for careerists to take calculated risks to advance along their chosen career path. When we feel a sense of trust with others, we can open up and share what is on our minds at a deeper level, without judgment. Our authentic confidence is in how we chose to communicate with others leading to the best results for all parties.
The opposite of feeling threatened, making interpretations, and assumptions about what’s going on, we disconnect from others even more. To prevent falling into permanent disconnection and distrust is to tap into your innate emotional and conversational intelligence—An area developed by anyone willing to take responsibility and accountability for the behavioral and communication patterns that are creating barriers to their success. To accelerate along your career path, you must learn to have more emotionally connected conversations and to do that, you must be willing to be open to sharing what’s on your mind on a deeper level without judgment.
3 STEPS TO GET STARTED
BE OPEN TO INFLUENCE, which is both a mindset and an attitude that one must cultivate to be engaged in a conversation without judgment. We are often preparing for what we want to say next in an interview, rather than engaging fully and listening actively to what the other person is saying and even thinking. Be curious and open so that you can deeply hear what others are saying without filtering it through your agenda.
PRIME FOR TRUST, by creating a safe environment that invites transparency about desired outcomes, as well as shared threats that may become barriers to having a productive conversation. When there is trust, we believe that others will deliver on their promises. Distrust is when we doubt others are telling the truth and assume they will not deliver on their promises. Priming for trust enables us to work as partners and opens us up to achieve higher levels of success with others. When trust exists, your conversations with others produce more openness, sincerity, courage, and caring.
REDUCE CONFLICT, by establishing mutual respect. Create mutual respect through actively listening to connect. Listening to connect is about opening yourself up to connect to the other person’s aspirations and ‘view of the world’ in a non-judgmental way. Too often we listen to understand, which is more about listening to confirm what you already know. When listening to connect, be curious about the other person’s needs and interests. Tune in to what they are trying to say so that you can connect to their world.
The Confident Careerist Podcast 🎧 (formerly known as Claim The Lead) will stimulate your mindset and give you skills, tools, and strategies to connect your intention with your impact so that you can achieve success and greater work-life alignment and satisfaction.
Teena Evert coaches professional men and women who place a high value on their career development and strive for success while also seeking work-life balance. CLICK HERE to learn more.