Episode #43: 4 Steps to Improve Your Life and Career

Be Empowered to Improve Your Life and Career

Welcome to The Confident Careerist Podcast for professionals just like you who place a high value on their career development and strive for success while also seeking work-life balance.

My name is Teena Evert and I am delighted to be your host. I’m a careerist myself and career development, leadership, and life coach. I love what I do and I hope that you enjoy the creation of this podcast and allow it to be an important tool in your toolbox that will help you to accelerate your success, gain greater confidence and happiness in your work-life.

Today’s episode is focused on how to improve your life and career!

This is an important topic to give attention to because so many people that I work with feel powerless at work. I have also felt this way at work – not only does it feels uncomfortable, but it also has the potential to lead to self-destructive behaviors and chronic negative thinking about ourselves. As a result, our confidence begins to erode, our vital energy gets tapped out, and we find ourselves feeling deeply depleted.

What needs to change?

When this is happening in our work-life we feel stuck and when we are stuck we can’t move forward. This state of being can also carry over into other parts of our lives and have an impact on the quality of our personal relationships, our self-care practices, and our overall connection to our strengths and the value that we have to offer at work and in the world.

This is a problem because it doesn’t allow us to flourish unless we use our sense of powerlessness as a motivator or a catalyst for positive change. Feeling powerless and depleted is often a good indicator that something needs to change in your life. The best way to get on top of this change and move into your power is to take some time to reflect on where you’re at so that you can take action towards what you want.

We all have felt while working – it’s where most of us spend our prime years and the bulk of our time. These feelings change over time and can be anywhere between misery and ecstasy.

People who enjoy their work are usually good at making a distinction between themselves and the results of their work. This brings a detachment that allows for enjoyment of work independence of circumstances. If you don’t maintain this distinction, your enjoyment will always be dependent on whether or not things are going ‘well’.

STEP 1: Look at Alternative Careers and New Directions

In order to make changes in your career, it helps to understand what you enjoy, and what you don’t, in your current work. Then you can make yourself more comfortable where you are while you ponder and take action on alternative careers and new directions.

It’s very important to remember that making BIG changes in our lives is to move from a position of strength – and not from a position of weakness or unhappiness.

For the past few years, I have been keenly observing my personal relationship with power – how I claim it as well as how I give it away. I started to get curious about this because I realized I was showing up in life feeling quite disempowered. This primarily stemmed from not believing in myself or being aware of what my strengths and unique talents were. As a result, I was not able to express them in the world and this caused me to feel really stuck.

STEP 2: Explore Your Relationship with Power

Exploring your relationship with power and reclaiming it if you’ve lost a connection with it, is an important step in your career development.

It is YOU who determines what success means in your life. It is YOU who determines what will make you happy. It is YOU who determines how you will spend the hours in your life. You are in the driver’s seat so make sure you are going in the direction that feels powerful to you and takes you on a path that lights you up!

What is depleting your power? Let’s take a look at the things that can contribute to feeling a lack of power at work.

Fear is certainly something we can all identify with.

I love this affirmation: “Embrace change, follow your inspiration, breathe away fear.” Not all fear is bad, sometimes it is fear that can motivate us or get us to take action. However, it’s when our fear is unconscious that it can control our lives to the point where we feel stuck and powerless.

Here are some common fears that people have: failure, death, rejection, ridicule, loneliness, misery, disappointment, pain, the unknown, and losing your freedom.

What are the fears that are holding you back from being in your power at work?

How do you define your power? One of my mentors once said, “Power unused is power useless.”

Imagine a continuum from 1—10, 1 = I don’t feel connected with the idea of power; I don’t seek it, own it, or value it. 10 = I love power, I want it, I own it fully. The in-between numbers express various points along that continuum.

Where do you place yourself along this continuum? Why do you think you chose that number?

Power throughout most of human history has been a concept rooted in brute force, the power-OVER something or someone.

The hammer is a good metaphor to explain power. Because power is actually amorphous. It becomes what we make of it. You can build with it or you can tear things apart with it. Therefore we can intentionally change the very meaning of power. And that is exactly what we must do in order to OWN it authentically and comfortably in the workplace.

We can change the meaning of power, how we think of it, from the outdated notion of power OVER…To redefine it as the power TO.

Power OVER implies forcing or denying. Power TO is about solving problems, making life better for yourself, others and the world. It’s about influencing, innovating, the power of possibilities.

Power OVER makes you feel power-LESS. Power-TO lets you feel power-FULL.

With that said, I want to walk you through a powerful exercise that will help you define some steps that you can take right away that will empower you in your current work situation. It will also help you find what contributes to how you feel at work so that you can change it.

STEP 3: Be Honest With Yourself

Keep in mind that it is important to be honest with yourself as awareness is a powerful tool for change. If you deny the truth of a situation, you also deny yourself the opportunity to make meaningful changes.

What percentage of time at work would you say you’re feeling:

Enjoyment? − Neutral? −  Misery?

  • What would you say most contributes to your enjoyment at work?
  • What would you say most contributes to your misery at work?
  • What would you say are the underlying critical variables that affect your enjoyment of your work?
  • What COULD you do differently at your CURRENT work to feel better? What is the biggest difference that makes the difference as to whether you enjoy your work or not?

Go back and further reflect on the answers to these questions and determine what you will do differently to empower yourself in your CURRENT work situation. Be specific by writing down 3 actions you are going to take and by when.

  • How will you hold yourself accountable for these actions?
  • What support do you need to keep these promises to yourself?

STEP 4: Take Action

  • Email them to me at support@teenaevert.com
  • Invest in a purpose-driven career coach
  • Share them with a trusted colleague or friend
  • Write them down and post them where you can see them on a regular basis encourage you to do this TODAY!

Let’s Chat! We can explore the awareness you gained about yourself from doing this exercise and discuss what kind of support you need in order to hold yourself accountable and move forward!

Until next time BE POWERFUL!