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Achieving success and work-life balance

As a licensed mental health professional who has fully transitioned into life and career coaching, I work with people who are more interested in designing a future rather than getting over a past.

Clients who want to live their life more fully, both personally and professionally value having a personal coach. Because of this, professional men and women and entrepreneurial small business owners, hire me because they want their vocation to reflect their values.

Professional Development 

In the professional business life, there is always a need to improve upon communication with co-workers and customers. There is also a growing recognition that relationships within the workplace are important to overall success of the company or business. There is a strong emphasis on emotional and conversational intelligence in the work environment because the bottom line of a company or business can be improved if the employee’s communication and function as a team works well together and resolves conflict early.

As a former Marriage Therapist, this is also important in our personal relationships. How we emotionally connect and communicate with one another is critical for long-term success and satisfaction in growing a healthy marriage.”

Intention and impact both matter

A large part of working well together requires establishing mutual trust. When conversations trigger fear, we become defensive. Careerists who only focus on their intentions and neglect to see their impact, are not aware of how their words can cause others to react with fear and are often seen as insensitive to other’s feelings. The ability to connect intention and impact is innate to all human beings, yet some people focus more on their intentions and fail to see the impact they are having on others. When we are able to connect intention with impact, we develop a high level of sensitivity to others, and we pay greater attention to our words and conversational impact.

This also means that we increase our emotional and conversational intelligence which strengthens our ability to connect and collaborate with others giving us more successful outcomes and growth. When we only focus on our intention, we can often have a negative impact on others because it can active our ‘fight, flight, freeze, appease’ impulses. When we have established rapport and mutual trust in a conversation, we have an intention to communicate and therefore we connect. As a result, the impact is positive, and we are more honest and candid about our communication, as well as more vulnerable and open to sharing.

Grow your authentic confidence

When we are more open to sharing our confidence grows. Confidence is essential for careerists to take calculated risks in order to advance along their chosen career path. When we feel a sense of trust with others, we are able to open up and share what is on our minds at a deeper level, without judgement. This creates an authentic confidence that is expressed in how we chose to communicate with others in a way that leads to the best results for all parties. This is the opposite of feeling a sense of threat that results in interpretations and assumptions about what’s going on and we disconnect from others even more.

To prevent falling into permanent disconnection and distrust is to tap into your innate emotional and conversational intelligence. This is an area that can be developed by anyone who is willing to take responsibility and accountability for the behavioral and communication patterns that are creating barriers to their success.

To be a truly effective careerist and accelerate along your career path, it’s critical that you learn to have more emotionally connected conversations and to do that you must be willing to be open to sharing what’s on your mind on a deeper level without judgement.

Steps to get started

Be open to influence, which is both a mindset and an attitude that one must cultivate in order to be engaged in a conversation without judgment. We are often preparing for what we want to say next in a conversation, rather than engaging fully and listening actively to what the other person is saying and even thinking. Be curious and open so that you can deeply hear what others are saying without filtering it through your own agenda.

Prime for trust, by creating a safe environment that invites transparency about desired outcomes, as well as shared threats that may become barriers to having a productive conversation. When there is trust we believe that others will deliver on their promises. Distrust is when we doubt others are telling the truth and assume, they will not deliver on their promises. Priming for trust enables us to work as partners and opens us up to achieve higher levels of success with others. When trust exists your conversations with others produce more openness, candor, courage and caring.

Reduce conflict by establishing mutual respect. Mutual respect is created through actively listening to connect. Listening to connect is about opening yourself up to connect to the other person’s aspirations and ‘view of the world’ in a non-judgmental way. Too often we listen to understand, which is more about listening to confirm what you already know. When listening to connect be curious about the other person’s needs and interests. Tune into what they are trying to say so that you can connect to their world.

The Confident Careerist Podcast (formerly known as Claim The Lead) will stimulate your mindset and give you skills, tools and strategies to connect your intention with you impact so that you can achieve success and greater work-life alignment and satisfaction.

Teena Evert coaches professional men and women who place a high value on their career development and strive for success while also seeking work-life balance. CLICK HERE to learn more.

How To Balance Work-Life Boundaries as A Career Development Practitioner

How To Balance Work-Life Boundaries

How To Balance Work-Life Boundaries as A Career Development Practitioner
We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own ‘to do’ list.” — Michelle Obama, former First Lady

Creating healthy boundaries

A day doesn’t go by where I don’t hear a colleague talk about both their struggle and desire to achieve work-life balance. As busy careerists, it’s essential that we recognize that work-life balance is not a static state and is achieved by creating healthy boundaries to manage our time, energy and commitments. When we prioritize what’s most important in our lives, it will be much easier to achieve work-life balance as a way of being.

We live in a society where saying “yes” is often the acceptable norm. 

How frequently do you take on extra projects, problems, or client work when your plate is already full?

Get clear about what you want

The first step in establishing healthy boundaries is to get clear about where you want to spend your time and energy. I recommend that your time and energy be spent on things that give you a high level of satisfaction in your life and career. If you’re someone who tends to be over-commit to things, then boundary setting is essential to sustainable success and job satisfaction.

Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.” —Dolly Parton, singer

For some people, setting firm boundaries can feel harsh or limiting. The truth is, boundaries don’t have to be harsh or limiting, yet sometimes they just are. The purpose of establishing boundaries is to create the space necessary to achieve alignment in your work-wife and succeed in reaching your desired goals. As busy careerists, setting clear parameters around our services and business hours is an important place to begin, because it will help you evaluate the health of your professional boundaries.

4 key factors to create healthy boundaries

1. Be Flexible. We live in a world where flexibility and continued re-assessment of work-life balance is essential to maintaining choice and being able to make conscious decisions that invite a new work-around when it’s called for. In order to have flexibility you must first define your boundaries by allocated time and space as a buffer for yourself and your scheduled commitments. I often coach my clients towards creating more flexibility in their professional lives since there are often unpredictable situations that may require us to be less rigid.

For example, communication and the person’ you are speaking with is often unpredictable. If we try to learn the appropriate behavior for any given situation, we’ll run into problems. Learning to be flexible will allow you to choose the way you want to communicate in order to get the best results.

2. Know Your Work Requirements. Your work requirements are your non-negotiables and relate directly to your deepest and critically important values and priorities. They drive the creation of strong, healthy boundaries. Your ability to identify your requirements is imperative to your success and will lead to values-based decisions that will protect you from job burnout. Your Value driven work requirements will support work-life alignment as a busy career development practitioner.

3. Create Space and Minimize Distractions. By creating a mental and physical space between yourself and an unhelpful distraction can prevent overwhelm or derailment from your life and career goals and priorities. Consider planning a vacation or quick get-a-way in order to create physical distance and space from a project or person. Re-prioritize your less important projects or goals for a specific period of time in order to create time distance. You might also decide to focus on just one goal at a time to create mental space from other potential distractions.

For example, perhaps your goal this year is to develop your personal branding to better attract your ideal clients. Consider creating a mind map to help you visual the space you need to minimize potential distractions and stay focused on pursuing this one goal.

4. Invite Adaptability. Your ability to be adaptable requires both self-awareness and flexibility. This can be what you need it to be, such as a firm strong boundary or a more relaxed boundary depending on the situation. It can look like having flexible management of your time and goals, having clear awareness and recognition of your limits and the ability to prioritize new items as they arise, while managing previous commitments.

When we don’t set boundaries the person we most often disappoint is ourselves.

Learning to balance our work-life boundaries will help you create the framework you need to steer clear of falling into a state of overwhelm and potential job burnout. This is a creative process that will allow for ongoing personal and professional growth as a successful career development practitioner.

►Teena Evert coaches professional men and women who place a high value on their career development and strive for success while also seeking work-life balance. CLICK HERE to learn more.




Is It Time For Your Career Check Up?

The Claim The Lead podcast is for you if who want to create a meaningful well-lived life. 

My name is Teena Evert, I am a Career-Centered Life Coach, Trainer and Podcast Host with a true passion for helping people develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in their work-life. I help you unlock your possibilities and find a career you love for life!

In this episode, I talk about the Essentials of having an End-of-the-Year Career Check up!

📌 Take a brief self-assessment to determine your overall satisfaction level in your work-life.

📌 Learn what the two types of career portfolios, when to use them, and how to get started

📌 Create a support plan to create your end-of-the-year career portfolio

It’s time for a career check up!

If you’re anything like me you wait until the end of the year to see your doctor for your yearly well-woman visit. Well, I actually have to wait one calendar year for it to be covered by my Insurance provider and it keeps getting pushed back further and further. Soon it will be at the beginning of the new year, rather than at the very end.

However, just like going in for our yearly check up at the doctor’s, which is essential to stay on top of your health, it’s also essential to have a career check up and what better time than the end-of-the-year!

This episode was sparked by many of my clients who have either recently been let go from their current job or are looking to advance their career by making a career pivot. Whatever the case may be for you, knowing the essentials of a career check up can help you gain new employment and also advance in your current career or potential career pivot.

What do I mean by a Career Check Up?

Well first things first. Get out a piece of paper and something to write with. We’re going to do some scoring between 1-10. 1 is really lousy feeling and a 10 is really great.

  1. What score out of 10 would you give for how SATISFIED you are with your life overall?
  2. If you were to give a score out of 10 for how much FUN you’re having in life, what would it be?
  3. If you were to give a score out of 10 for how HAPPY you are in your current CAREER, what would that number be?
  4. Give a score out of 10 for how overwhelmed, BUSY, or stressed you usually feel.

☑️ What’s your self-assessment of how your doing with your overall satisfaction in your work-life?

☑️ What could be improved in your life at the moment?

If you’re like many of my clients, there is plenty of room for improvement.

One of the best ways to get clear on WHAT it is exactly that needs improvement and HOW you’re going to improve is by creating a year-end Career Portfolio.

Career Portfolio

A Career Portfolio is a visual, organized and portable collection of documents and artifacts that provides a cumulative record of your experience, skills, knowledge, accomplishments, and attributes. There are actually two types of portfolios: the master portfolio and the presentation portfolio.

First, I’ll talk about the master career portfolio by explaining WHAT it is, HOW it can help you and WHAT it should include.

Next, I’ll talk about the presentation portfolio by explaining what should be included in it and specifically what it can be used for.

I strongly encourage you to make the creation of your career portfolio a priority as we approach the end of the year and begin a new. Your portfolio will help inspire you to grow in your career and be more open to new possibilities and opportunities that come your way.

If you did not score an 8 higher on the scoring exercise that we did together at the beginning of this episode, then it’s time to get some additional support to help you create positive change that leads to greater overall work-life satisfaction.

I provide comprehensive career services to my clients to help them launch or advance in their career. If you would like to learn more about what services are best for you please schedule a FREE 30-minutes consultation session with me.

Wishing you all success on your career journey!

EP30 Claim The Lead Podcast


EP30 Claim The Lead Podcast


The Claim The Lead podcast is for you if who want to create a meaningful well-lived life. 

My name is Teena Evert, I am a Career-Centered Life Coach, Trainer and Podcast Host with a true passion for helping people develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in their work-life. I help you unlock your possibilities and find a career you love for life!

This episode is part of the CAREER ADVANCEMENT SERIES that has been curated to help you become an Exceptional Communicator.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

📌 The antidote to fear of success or failure

📌 The importance of having a growth mindset

📌 Strategies to boost your confidence, self-esteem and strengthen your relationships with others

📌 How to get the credit you deserve

Many of my clients have asked me how to appear poised and confident even when you’re not..

In prior episodes of the CAREER ADVANCEMENT SERIES I talked about how our fear can affect our communication. One of the primary examples was when we put our foot in our mouth by speaking first and thinking later. When that happens to us, we feel so embarrassed that we get nervous about making the same mistake again in the future.

A different type of fear can occur when we’re entering a confrontational situation. Often times it’s because we’re afraid that we’ll come across as weak, or lose control of our emotions or find ourselves unable to come up with the right words.

Another is the fear of failure or even the fear of success! The antidote for fear is to know WHO you are and to take an inventory of the behaviors, attitudes and beliefs that absolutely do not serve you.

I often coach my clients in a self assessment and self exploration process to gain clarity about WHO they are before they decide WHAT they want to do. It’s the WHO before the WHAT. The following questions will help

7 questions to explore WHO you are, before deciding WHAT you want to DO!

Here are 7 questions to write down and answer for yourself when you can carve out some quality time to self-reflect and journal.

  1. What are the greatest gifts and talents and attributes that I bring to my work?
  2. How could I make a positive difference and/or contribute to others?
  3. At work, my greatest sense of fulfillment comes from?
  4. In my personal life, my greatest sense of fulfillment comes from?
  5. In my life (professional or personal), what’s the ONE THING I would set out to accomplish, if I knew I absolutely would not fail?
  6. What are my greatest moments of satisfaction, joy and happiness?
  7. The qualities I seek to express in my life are?

Your mindset

Let’s talk about your mindset. Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck was curious why some people in their life thrive – while others flounder.

She studied the underpinnings of success and achievement for over four decades. Her major contribution is the distinction between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.

So let me ask you…
Do you often try new things and push yourself into uncharted territory in your development? Or Do you tend to stick with what you know?

Your answer to these questions reveals your mindset.

Let’s explore what these mindsets really mean, why they are important, how to determine which one you have, and how to change our mindsets.

Fixed mindset

In a fixed mindset, individuals believe they are either born with talent or they’re not.
They’re either naturally good at something, or they’re not. They view intelligence as a fixed trait. They believe inborn talent determines success.

Individuals with a growth mindset believe talent comes through effort. They believe
anyone can be good at anything; that their abilities can be developed through dedication, perseverance, and the right strategy.

Growth mindset

Individuals with a fixed mindset seek to validate themselves. Individuals with a growth
mindset focus on developing themselves. Although this distinction may seem simple, the implications are enormous.

Individuals who adopt a fixed mindset rarely excel at anything. Because they believe their intelligence and abilities are what they are, they invest their energy in looking smart
instead of learning and developing.

In a fixed mindset, if you try something you’ve never done before, say skiing, you’ll likely give up after falling a few times. This “failure” will feel humiliating and you’ll probably avoid ice skating for the rest of your life. You’ll make an excuse like, “Skiing just isn’t my thing.”

If you believe someone is just a “natural born dancer” or that you “just can’t dance,” you’re holding a fixed mindset. With a fixed mindset, you avoid new challenges like the plague because you’re afraid of being judged.

When obstacles arise, you tend to give up quickly. Because you don’t have many references for how humans learn and develop, you feel that putting forth effort is a waste of time. And you secretly feel threatened and envious of the success of others. Ultimately, in a fixed mindset, you don’t have a chance to develop your potential.

It’s incredibly harmful to hold a fixed mindset, to believe intelligence and talent is static. Yet, most of us hold a fixed mindset in multiple areas of our lives.

In a growth mindset, you believe you can develop any ability through dedication and hard work. Because of this belief, you have a desire to learn. This enables you to embrace challenges and persevere when setbacks invariably arise during the learning process.

With a growth mindset, you view effort as an essential ingredient on the path to mastery.

You don’t shy away from effort; you embrace it. And when you see others succeeding on their path to mastery, you find inspiration and lessons to learn for your own development. A growth mindset leads you into an upward spiral of continuing developing, reaching ever-higher levels of personal mastery and achievement.

These self-actualizing individuals have more peak experiences, improved relationships, and greater productivity in their fields of endeavor.

Which mindset do you have?

You can also have a mixed mindset, a combination of the two, although Dweck says people tend to lean toward one or the other. You also have beliefs about your abilities and personal qualities.

How about personality? Are you simply the way you are? Can you change your personality? You can have a growth mindset for intelligence and a fixed mindset for your personality, or vice versa. And in different situations, your mindset can change.

The good news is that you have a choice. “Mindsets are just beliefs,” Dweck explains. “They’re powerful beliefs, but they’re just something in your mind, and you can change your mind.”

Let’s say you identify that you have a fixed mindset in a particular area of your life.

What can you do about it? Dweck has found that just learning about the growth mindset can cause major shifts in how people view themselves and their lives.

Knowing the distinction between a growth and fixed mindsets gives you a new choice.

4-Step Process to Change Your Mindset

The key to changing your mindset lies first and foremost in self-awareness. To change your mindset, you have to be able to identify the situations that trigger a fixed mindset and observe when you’re falling into it.

Here are four steps Dweck offers on her website:

Step 1: Learn to hear your fixed mindset “voice.”
Approaching a new challenge, the voice might say, “Are you sure you can do it?” or “What if you fail?” After hitting an obstacle, you might hear, “If only you had talent,” or “I told you it was too risky.”

In the face of criticism, the voice says, “It’s not my fault,” or “Who do they think they are?” Every life and business coach knows about the inner saboteur. It’s the voice that
undermines so much of what we do; the inner critic that judges us and our work. The inner saboteur is the fixed mindset.

Once you know you have a fixed mindset, you can anticipate this voice in advance. Then,
simply listen inwardly for it.

Step 2: Recognize that you have a choice.
You can interpret these voices in two different ways: Challenges, setbacks, and criticism
can be a sign that you have fixed talent and ability. Or, they can be a sign that you need to challenge yourself, step up your effort, change your strategies, and continue to develop.

The former is obviously the fixed mindset; the latter is oriented toward growth. The key
here is to shift out of the framework of judgment (fixed) and into the arena of growth.

Step 3: Talk back to it with a growth mindset voice.
As you approach a challenge: The fixed mindset says “Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don’t have the talent.” The growth mindset answers, “I’m not sure I can do it now, but I think I can learn to – with time and effort.”

Fixed mindset: “What if you fail—you’ll be a failure” Growth mindset: “Most successful people had failures along the way.”

As you hit a setback: Fixed mindset: “This would have been a snap if you really had talent.” Growth mindset: “That is so wrong. Basketball wasn’t easy for Michael Jordan and science wasn’t easy for Thomas Edison. They had a passion and put in tons of effort.”

As you face criticism: Fixed mindset: “It’s not my fault. It was something or someone else’s fault.” Growth mindset: “If I don’t take responsibility, I can’t fix it. Let me listen—however painful it is—and learn whatever I can.”

Step 4: Take the growth mindset action.

Once you hear the fixed mindset voice and respond to it with a growth mindset, you then determine how to take the necessary action that will lead to growth. This might include taking on a new challenge, learning from setbacks, persisting without exception, adjusting your actions based on feedback, and so on.

Next, let’s look at some strategies to boost your confidence, self-esteem and strengthen your relationships with others.

When we support others the side benefit is we boost our own confidence and self-esteem, as well as strengthen our relationships with others.

14 specific things that you can do to support others

  1. Offer to help out a coworker when you have a little spare time.
  2. Keep blank thank-you notes nearby and use them.
  3. Praise people in front of their peers.
  4. Be aware of people’s interests and hobbies. If you see an article or other information about their topic of interest, give it to them.
  5. When one of your coworkers does an exceptional job, send a note of acknowledgment to their boss.
  6. Smile and say hello to everyone with whom you work. That’s everyone!
  7. Go to lunch with someone and give them a full hour of your undivided attention – resist the temptation to talk about yourself.
  8. Continually look for ways to protect and enhance others’ self esteem.
  9. Leave a voicemail message of appreciation to someone.
  10. Ask for what you need.
  11. When you do experience anger rising, postpone your communication if you think you are going to lose it. Passive folks–you’ll be about to cry. Aggressive people–you’ll be gritting your teeth, clenching your fist and ready to explode. Wait until you’re in total calm control.
  12. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Assume the best intentions.
  13. Never, ever, ever allow yourself to get involved in gossip–even passively as a listener. If you support it in others, you approve it for yourself!
  14. Seek win/win solutions to everything. Hold the belief that what we both want is equally important–not one any more so than the other.

I encourage you to pick just two of these 14 things and do them often. Notice what starts to shift inside of you as do more intentional things to support others. Also notice how the quality of your relationships start to improve.

Another common question that my client’s ask is how to get the credit you deserve?

First, make sure you get credit for your contributions at work. This is simply about taking the great impression you’ve made at work and present yourself more confidently by claiming the credit you deserve without bragging or stealing someone else’s thunder.

I think we can all agree that humility is a great characteristic, but at some point, we need to speak up to ensure that our accomplishments and hard work are not going unnoticed. We may also need to find ways to remind others of our contributions, especially when there is evidence that someone else is claiming credit for our work.

6 ways to publicly acknowledge your wins

…so that it feels good to you and they are well received by others….

  1. Talk about your accomplishments using very measurable, quantifiable terms to support your statements, such as, “I sold 500 bikes in the fourth quarter.”
  2. Keep handy an ongoing file of all your accomplishments; you can call it your own brag file! Include important documentation of your achievements.
  3. Offer to tackle projects that reflect your skills. “I’d like to take on that job. I’ve had experience with kicking off new projects in a previous job.”
  4. Don’t complain about a difficult situation; instead acknowledge its difficulty and quickly offer a solution.
  5. Make sure to tout your entire team’s contribution to a cause, rather than just your own.
  6. Give praise to others who have helped you shine.

In order to achieve the growth and rewards we deserve in our career fields, we need to learn how to promote our value without seeming arrogant or insensitive to others’ contributions and most importantly we need to embrace a growth mindset and practice our communication skills to master them.

Tune into the next episode in the CAREER ADVANCEMENT SERIES: “Communicate To Positively Persuade and Influence Others”


► TEDx Talk – The Power of Belief – Mindset and Success

► Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.

► Growth Mindset Development –  Mindset Works

► Mindset Assessment Survey

career advancement series - how to become an exceptional communicator


career advancement series - how to become an exceptional communicator


“Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.” – Jack Canfield

Season 2: Episode 26 of the Claim The Lead Podcast. The Claim The Lead podcast is for you if who want to create a meaningful well-lived life. My intention is to support you in developing greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in your work-life.

My name is Teena Evert M.A., LMFT, CCTC, a Career-Centered Life Coach, Trainer and Speaker with a true passion for helping people navigate important transitions in their life and career so they can experience a high level of satisfaction and success.

Today kicks off the CAREER ADVANCEMENT SERIES that has been curated to help you become an Exceptional Communicator.

Today we’ll explore ways that you can become an Exceptional Communicator To Advance in Your Career.

You will learn:

♥ What is an exceptional communicator?

♥ Factors that influence communication

♥ Understanding yourself and leverage your personal strengths to improve your communication with others

♥ 4 primary types of business communication styles

♥ 6 strategies to help you work in a multigenerational workplace

Listen to other episodes in the CAREER ADVANCEMENT SERIES

EP27 Critical Skills for High-Impact Communicators

EP28 How To Build Rapport, Strengthen Work Relationships & Achieve Respect

EP29 Communicating in Tough Situations & Dealing With Difficult People at Work

If you would like to explore any of these topics further and receive additional support and coaching, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me by sending an email to support@teenaevert.com

I look forward to hearing from you and would be happy to schedule a free 30 minute consultation.

Until then enjoy the rest of the week!

The Art of Negotiation for Women


The Art of Negotiation for Women


Welcome to Season 2: Episode 25 of the Claim The Lead Podcast.

SEASON 2 of the Claim The Lead podcast is for women who want to create a meaningful well-lived life. My intention is to support you in developing greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in your work-life. My name is Teena Ever and I am a Life and Career Development Coach, Trainer and Speaker with a true passion for helping people navigate important transitions in their life and career.

Through a hybrid of interviews and solo shows, I hope to encourage and inspire you to embrace a whole-life perspective. This will help you take a deeper look into yourself so that you can develop a meaningful life and career that brings a positive sense of self, is engaging and exciting and provides a sense of balance.

Today’s Episode is about The Art of Negotiation for Women. I’ll be speaking with Carrie Gallant. Carrie inspires and empowers women to think bigger, negotiate more powerfully and step up into greater influence and impact. She is President of Gallant Solutions Inc., and founder of The Gallant Leader™ Academy and the EARN Your Worth™ Leaders Lab.

Carrie is a dynamic speaker, facilitator and pay equity advocate and brings her experience as an executive, former practicing lawyer and adjunct law professor to her work in helping clients master the art and science of negotiation and influence, conflict resolution and Conversational Intelligence®. 

Carrie’s Art of Negotiation for Women approach is featured in The Women’s Enterprise Centre’s Negotiation for Women Entrepreneurs programs, and in author Tara Mohr’s acclaimed leadership program “Playing Big”. Carrie has also appeared in Cosmo Magazine, goop.com, vice.com, The Globe and Mail, The Financial Post, and CBC Radio. She is also a certified in Conversational Intelligence®, a certified facilitator of Authentic Leadership Conversations™ and Authentic Leadership for Teams™, and a qualified assessor of the Myers Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®). 

I am delighted to have her on the podcast as she is wise and passionate about helping women learn the art of negotiation. It’s a life skill that all women should develop to empower them in both business and personal relationships. 

In this episode you will learn:

📌 Why negotiation is important for women

📌  What it is about negotiation that freaks women out

📌  The biggest mistakes women make when it comes to negotiating

📌  The benefits for women in learning how to negotiate as a life skill

📌 How to check your negotiation competency



The Unstoppable You™ Negotiation & Influence Competencies Quiz: https://negotiationcompetencies.com

To receive personalized life or career development coaching to create a more meaningful well-lived life, please send an email to Teena Evert at support@teenaevert.com

Episode 22 Life and Career Coaching


Episode 22 Life and Career Coaching

Episode 22: Life and Career Coaching | Season 2


Welcome to the Claim The Lead Podcast.

I’m your host Teena Evert this podcast is for women who want to create a meaningful well-lived life. My intention is to support you in developing greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in work, life and love. I am a Life and Career Development Coach, Trainer and Speaker with a true passion for helping people navigate important transitions in their life and career. 

Season 2

Today’s episode will be different than other episodes, because today I want to tell you about what SEASON 2 of this podcast is about and what you can expect from it. I also wanted to share a little about myself and the inspiration for a NEW SEASON!

I am a life-long learner and I have too many certifications, trainings and degrees to list them all; however the most relevant to my work to date are that I am a Certified Life and Career Transition Coach, Certified Conversational Intelligence Coach, I have a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology and am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Addictions Counselor.

I have a true passion for helping people navigate important transitions in their life and career and I want you to know that you’re not alone, many people wonder where they fit or belong during challenging times.

I coach my clients on ways to get unstuck and move forward, strategize about possible barriers both internal and external and identify what is really holding them back from making changes. In our work together they gain more ideas, become more creative, are less anxious about the future and become more confident in designing and building a life they choose.

The transformation that occurs from gracefully moving through a life or career transition is really empowering! I know first hand, as I have been here multiple times and not only survived it, but have thrived on the other side – and you can too.

SEASON 2 is inspired by own recent transition as well as the incredible people that I have had the honor to coach over the past 9 months. They are so brave and courageous to seek out professional support to help guide them through times of change that can be filled with uncertainty, confusion, feeling lost and insignificant.

Through our work together they were able to discover themselves at a deeper level and learn to make choices in life that were in alignment with their core values and lead happy and more meaningful lives. They learned to move from a place of feeling completely stuck to an empowered outlook so they could reclaim the lead in their lives and move forward with a new energy and engagement within their relationships, life and career.

This has been my experience as well, when I recently sought out professional help and worked with a coach to assist me through an incredibly difficult transition in my life. I know the true power of working with a trained coach and recommend it highly if you are eager to grow out of a situation that can often feel impossible or unsolvable. I am here to tell you that is rough at first, but what’s possible on the other side is waiting for you!

Season 2 goals

My goals for SEASON 2 of this podcast, are to provide specific life and career development tools and practical tips to help you step into your best self, so you can live your best life. My hope is that it will help you know that they are not alone, that they’re not the only one experiencing or going through whatever they’re going through and learn some powerful and practical ways to start to shift, refocus and begin to move in a more positive direction.

Through a hybrid of interviews and solo shows, I will encourage and inspire you to embrace a whole-life perspective. This will help you take a deeper look into yourself so that you can develop a meaningful life and career that brings a positive sense of self, is engaging and exciting and brings a sense of balance (including health, finances, relationships, spirituality, personal growth (including intellectual and emotional), leisure, family, and continuing education

Thank you for listening, as we learn to Claim The Lead as women, to not be afraid of our own power, but to own it and go forth and use it to make a greater impact in the world!


CEO Claim The Lead

Episode 21


Episode 21

5 Steps You Must Make to Get to Your Next Level

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead. She coaches professionals to help them achieve greater work-life, home-life and relationship satisfaction.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In this episode I am speaking with Devonia Reed who is an author, speaker, and educator. Ms. Reed was born and raised in Chicago, Illinois. She has served as a public school educator for over 19 years in various capacities. She is also the Co-Founder and CEO of Welcome 2 the Queendom, a non-profit organization that empowers young ladies. She has dedicated her life to empowering youth and women to be “stretched into their greatness”.

Your happiness doesn’t come from places or things, happiness is purely personal and it’s really all about you.  – Devonia Reed

In this episode you will learn:

📌 How to use your biggest obstacles to propel you forward in life

📌 Inspiration to stretch into your greatness

📌 What are the power moves that will get to your next level

📌 How to be a happy whole woman in today’s world

Where to find Devonia

▶︎ Website

Power Moves: 6 Steps You Must Take To Get To Your Next Level

Ignite: A 30 Day Guide To Get You To Your Next Level and Achieving Your Goals





The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead and specializes in helping working professionals achieve greater work-life, home-life and relationship satisfaction.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In this episode, I am speaking with Charmaine Hammond who has been in the business of transforming lives, building sustainable collaborations, and helping businesses succeed for more than 25 years. CSP™ Certified Speaking Professional, bestselling author with a Master’s Degree in Conflict Management, she has developed collaborations and sponsorship relationships with more than 40 sponsors and 60 business partners and has helped her clients do the same. As a former counsellor, Charmaine worked with many families and communities to create collaborations built to last.

Charmaine has sat on all sides of the collaboration and sponsorship table. She has started and been the Executive Director and Board President of non-profit organizations where her role included building powerful collaborations, leading innovative fundraising, submitting grant applications, and securing sponsors. She has also worked as a funder and sponsor, making those tough decisions of who is awarded funding/sponsorship dollars. As a business owner herself for the past 22 years, she has been a sponsor of various projects, events and causes. Now she teaches people to do this for their businesses, projects and BIG DREAMS.

Prior to opening her first business, more than 20 years ago, Charmaine worked for all 3 levels of government (including the Correctional System where she was a Correctional Officer… bound to be some interesting stories there), and led a non profit organization. As a speaker, facilitator and consultant for more than 20 years, Charmaine’s clients have included Fortune 500 companies, all levels of government (including 65 municipalities), industry, educational institutions, corporations and businesses in a variety of sectors and non profit organizations. These experiences have provided Charmaine with a unique “inside” insight into the corporate, government, NGO and public sector world.

 In this episode you will learn:

📌 How collaboration can help you with your personal and business growth

📌 Ways that collaborations can go sideways and how to get back on track

📌 How to shift out of chaos

📌 The key elements to a good collaboration

📌 Tips, tools and practices to improve your ability to collaborate more effectively

Where To Find Charmaine

Charmaine’s Website: https://charmainehammond.com/

Raise a Dream: https://raiseadream.com/


How To Prevent Short-term Stress from Becoming Long-term Problems



There are five essential elements of well-being:

  1. Career 
  2. Social 
  3. Physical 
  4. Financial 
  5. Community 

These are the keys to not just surviving, but full thriving! People who are excelling in all five areas are happier, more engaged, and more productive.

Resilience is an essential part of our overall emotional well-being. Emotional well-being is less about what happens to us in life and more about how we respond to what comes our way. It's about resilience.

The biggest obstacle we face in building resiliency is STRESS - or so it seems. We've all learned that stress is bad. But new studies are now showing that stress can actually be good and even "beautiful."

Research has shown that short-term stress can actually enhance immune function and can also increase performance.

What we don't want is long-term stress. This is "bad" stress, which is definitely deleterious for our health.

What can we do to prevent short-term stress from becoming long-term stress?

One step that we can each take is to do the same, but differently (as in a more relaxed manner).

To stay on the "good" side of stress, be nice to people, smile more often, intentionally choose the longer line at the grocery store, drive in the slow lane, and read good, long works of literature.

When you optimize your stress you sharpen your short-term stress. This means increasing our levels of stress in the short term can be good - and can be a great source of energy.

The key, though, is to then offset these short-term bouts of stress with what recharges you - quality sleep, healthy food, moderate exercise, spending time with friends, practicing gratitude, and being nice to others and to ourselves, as well as engage in restorative activities - things like meditation, yoga, music, art and walking.

If you are struggling to manage the stress in your life and you know you could benefit from designing a plan to reduce it...

I invite you to message me so we can have a conversation about how you can increase your vitality and strengthen your resilience.

Just simply send an email to support@teenaevert.com and share two things with me:

  1. Your BIGGEST stressors.
  2. What you've already tried doing to manage your stress - that's both worked and hasn't worked.

I"ll respond to schedule a day and time to speak with you and help you break free from the cycle of stress that you're in.

I look forward to connecting with you!


Teena Evert, MA, LMFT, LAC, PC is executive wellness and life coach who specializes in helping her clients achieve transformation in their lives both personally and professionally. She is of great help to busy professionals on a quest to have it all: life satisfaction, a meaningful career, sane work / life balance, and healthy relationships. Teena encourages you to develop your own unique self-care plan and give yourself the gift of deeply caring for and loving yourself, so you can you can thrive in a forever changing world.






The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead and specializes in helping working professionals achieve greater work-life, home-life and relationship satisfaction.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In this episode, I am speaking with thought-leader and “Self-Care Concierge”, Pamela Zimmer. She is #1 bestselling author, sought after speaker and featured guest on countless radio shows, TV, podcasts, blogs and tele-summits, professional Architect turned Stay-at-Home Mom, and Founder of YOUR Permission Pinwheel™. Pamela teaches professional women how to have peace and balance in their lives through a consistent practice of self-care (which is more than just a monthly massage or mani/pedi).

With a leap of faith, Pamela quit her career of 13 years. What she didn’t anticipate was the 6 year struggle she would face battling severe Postpartum Depression. Out of her pain came her purpose, and the lesson about self-care. Today, Pamela mentors women with her groundbreaking, 5-step permission-based program, offering the structure, foundation and guidance they need to take care of themselves first. Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s essential.

In this episode we explore how:

📌 Self-care is always a choice

📌 Your thinking, feeling, and behaviors impact your overall health and well-being

📌  To not give up or give into life’s challenges

📌  To give yourself permission to be on purpose

Where To Find Pamela

Pamela’s Website

FREE GIFT –  7 Simple Self-Care Secrets


The Secret Solution To Staying Happy



📌 What have you been manifesting in your life lately?

📌 Whatever it is, is it bringing you joy or stressing you out?

📌 Are you where you truly want to be?

📌 Can you honestly say that you’re happy and content with where you’re at right now? or are you still searching?

Most people are searching because we all have a desire to find happiness, be happy and stay happy. But can it be as simple as choosing to be happy? If it were that simple, wouldn’t we all be walking around with a permanent smile on our face?

Although I agree choosing to be happy is an important first step, we still have to consciously create the right internal and external environment to manifest what we truly want and to feel content in life.

A Decline in Happiness

According to the 2019 World Happiness Report, happiness and well-being has declined among adult Americans since 2010. This same report states that the feeling of happiness is made up from experiences that satisfy us on a deep level and bring an overwhelming feeling of contentment.

I agree with that, but here’s the challenge most of us face:

How often have you had an amazing experience that left you beaming with joy, then not long after it was over, you were right back to where you were before the experience?

Your emotional state was in the doldrums feeling ho hum without anything extraordinary happening to arouse your senses.

This experience is true for many. We get used to experiencing the highs and lows and ups and downs of life and accept this stress cycle as the norm.

But isn’t this how we build our resilience? Perhaps this is true, but does it have to be so tumultuous?

Can we learn to remain in a state of flow regardless of what’s going on around us?

Emotional Resilience

Is it possible to use our emotional resilience to move through life’s challenges without turning things into mountains that were originally just a bump along the road?

I believe so.

Now don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy a good mountain to climb that challenges my stamina, physically, mentally and emotionally. What I don’t enjoy is when the mountain suddenly appears in front of me unexpectedly and I am not prepared for the challenge. I don’t have the right shoes, clothing, food or gear to make the trek. It could actually be dangerous to attempt the climb without adequate preparation and supplies.

Solving Unsolvable Problems

This is an example of when we’re most likely to give up. We tell ourselves we just don’t have what it takes to succeed, so we don’t even try.

The truth is, we all have blind spots especially when it comes to conquering life’s challenges. In most cases, if we ask for support, we can find a solution to what we perceive, as an unsolvable problem. 

Others can often see what we can’t see during times of high stress. Our brain is in survival mode and as a result our creativity gets thwarted. This is why when faced with a big challenge, one that appears to be unsolvable, it’s important to seek support or guidance to help you discover a viable solution.

I can’t tell you how many times I put my head down and just walked away because the task in front of me looked too daunting. I didn’t even try or put forth any effort, because I believed it was an impossible task or unsolvable problem. However, if I had asked for help, I would’ve been able to see that the challenge was totally doable, manageable and even fun to conquer.

Asking For Support

When was the last time you were faced with a challenge and your first instinct was to walk away and not even attempt to face it? What if in that moment instead of giving up, you asked for support? 

📌 What would be different today if you choose this option?

📌 How would you feel different about yourself? 

📌 What kind of support do you need to manifest your dreams?

When the going gets tough, stop what you’re doing and find someone who is willing to help you see or find a solution that works for you.

Not only will this boost your confidence it will strengthen your resilience and ability to thrive during difficult times. This may even lead you down a path where you feel happier and more content overall.

Get out of your own way

All too often, we just have to get out of our own way by dropping our ego and our preconceived notion regarding how we think things should be. We get so attached to the outcome that when things don’t start to unfold the way we had imagined or don’t look the way we had envisioned them to be, we get frustrated and try to control the outcome even more.

This pattern of thinking and behaving is what feeds our resistance and robs our joy in the process of creating and manifesting. We shut off the value to these energy flows and instead open the valve to fear. The more we tap into the fear the more it becomes the primary source of fuel that drives our behaviors.

We don’t even realize that we’re operating under such adverse conditions. We blame external circumstances and avoid taking full responsibility for our happiness. And so it goes…we do this over and over again throughout our life with no conscious awareness that we keep repeating the cycle that disconnects us from our true desires.

It can be really difficult to sustain the amount of energy it takes to drive our lives from this place of disconnect  - and we all have a breaking point. Unfortunately, this can lead to a wide variety of disorders, diseases, loss of wellbeing, and loss of productivity.

Nothing changes until we acknowledge the stress cycle and get the right support.

What’s it going to be for you?

It’s your choice and although that sounds like the easy part, it’s can be the hardest step to take. You get to choose what happiness means to you.

The secret solution is, you have to believe that you can be.  

I want to leave you with these questions: 

📌 Do you believe you can be truly happy?

📌 Can you keep striving to be the best version of you and still feel content in the moment?

📌What support do you need to manifest your dreams? 

Wishing you the very best, 


CEO Claim The Lead





The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In this episode I am speaking with Janice Solomon who is a nationally certified homeopath and holistic health practitioner and mentor. She works with women who want to feel more freedom, ease and joy. She has been in private practice for 14 years and has offices in Nyack, NY, Maplewood, NJ and globally via Facetime, Zoom or Skype.

In this episode, you will learn:

📌 That there is more to health and wellness than the current medical model offers.

📌  What the feminine core is and how finding it can help you on your healing journey.

📌  Ways to work with your physical and energetic body and whole being.

📌  How to break the pain cycle and transform your life into long lasting health and vitality

Where To Find Janice:

Website: janicesolomon.com

Finding Your Feminine Core: http://resonanthealingny.com/finding-your-feminine-core





Are you experiencing change in your life right now?

You may or may not be aware it, but something feels a bit uncomfortable for you. I know this feeling well and I have helped many of my clients through the process of change with ease and grace, rather than pain and resistance.

Where are you? 

We are always in an evolving cycle of change and ultimately expanding as human beings.. Sometimes we welcome this change with open arms and other times we resist with all of our might. It can be helpful to know which stage you’re in, so you can better understand what is going on for you. When you have a better understanding, you can have more compassion for yourself and be better equip to work through this process of change, rather than against it.


The first stage of change is dissatisfaction or what I call “feeling the gap”. This is when there is a large gap between where you are and where you would like to be. You might not be completely clear where you want to be. You may just have the clarity that what you are experiencing now is not working for you.

This can be an uncomfortable place to be and oftentimes I have clients come to me and label this stage as “depression” or “anxiety”.  Try to frame the dissatisfaction as information signaling you to grow rather than labeling it as a permanent position - “I will always feel this way–my life never goes the way I want it to.”  How you frame it can change your experience of it.  If you frame it as a signal for growth you will feel empowered and if you focus on it from a state of helplessness you will feel despair.


The second stage of change is exploration. In this stage you feel the dissatisfaction, but you don’t quite know what would feel better to you. Or you have a sense of what would feel better, but you don’t know how to get there.

This is the stage where you explore options and “try them on” to see how it would feel or you explore options of how to get where you want to go. It’s important to take your time in this phase to truly explore. People oftentimes feel uncomfortable with the lack of certainty at this point and may try to bypass this by choosing an option to get out of this stage.

Reassure yourself that you will come to an option that feels right to you, just give it time. The other thing to watch in this stage is the opposite, which is exploring so much that you get confused and stuck in considering options. Sometimes people fear making a change and hang out in the exploration stage as a safety zone to not take any risks. Make sure you aren’t doing this either.


Stage three is what I call action or visualization. In this stage you have clarity about where you want to go and you develop a plan to get there. Again you may know where you want to go, but you’re unclear of a plan to get there and this is something that can to be finalized in this stage.  

You may have developed somewhat of a plan in the exploration stage and in this stage you will clarify this plan and begin to implement. In this stage it is important to get support in order for you to stay on track with your implementation. Without support the fears that surface may sidetrack you and stop you from moving forward.  

You can share with a close friend or partner and ask them to be an accountability buddy to you. The other part of this stage is to spend time visualizing the positive outcome of your desired change. See it working out in the easiest, magical and fun way. This vision can help keep you focused when your desired change is in process and not quite complete.  The phrase “keep your eye on the prize” is fitting here.


The fourth stage is stepping into the new. Moving into your change can be a gradual process or it could come more quickly (like meeting your ideal mate within weeks of this process or your dream job lands in your lap overnight).  Either way there is an adjustment phase to the new change.

There can be feelings of loss from letting go of the old, even though you were dissatisfied, because it represented the familiar to you. With the new changes may come feelings of having a new identity or parts of you being expressed that have never been expressed before.

Typically people feel more aliveness and vitality in this stage. You can also feel a deep sense of satisfaction that you made a change that was in alignment with your true self and you feel on the right path with your life and doing what you came here to do.

What stage are you in?

How are you framing this stage?

Are you viewing it positively or are you stuck in resisting it?


If you find yourself stuck in resistance or let's call it fear and you are not able to move forward you might be protecting yourself from pain. When you were little, if you experienced pain and your primary care givers were too caught up in their own world to comfort you or they were the ones causing you pain, then you most likely developed methods to block the pain. 

To feel the pain and have no way to process it or to have someone comfort you is very overwhelming for a child. Kids will begin to block painful feelings very early on if they are in this kind of environment. The part of us that does this is an underdeveloped protective part of us that had to intervene and protect against pain.

We all have different methods of protecting against our pain. Such as, over thinking, overeating, overworking, being obsessed with being perfect, over-focusing on others, daydreaming, watching TV, or reading etc. The last two I mentioned, watching TV and reading can either be coming from an intention to block pain and avoid or they can be a healthy form of enjoyment. For example you can watch a movie to avoid some painful feelings you are having and you want to escape or you want to have some enjoyment and fun by watching the movie, same activity but different intentions.

As an adult, blocking our pain ends up getting in our way and keeps us from moving forward. The methods we use to block pain can also get in the way of us feeling deeply connected to ourselves and our capacity to connect with others.  Our feelings are part of us and if we are blocking them, we’re missing a deep connection with ourselves that allows us to feel happy and content in our lives.

The truth is that as an adult, you now have the capacity to process your feelings, comfort yourself or get support and guidance from those around you. You aren’t alone with your pain anymore. The protected parts of you need to be reassured of this, because these parts of you are locked in the past and feel like what was happening back then is the current environment. As a result, they are tirelessly blocking your pain because they feel they need to for your own survival!  

It can take time for these blocking mechanisms to relax and acclimate to what is truly happening. These protective parts believe that if you feel pain, then it will be overwhelming and that you might even die. Reassure your wise and resourced adult self that you can handle the pain now and you can share with others how you are feeling. You are now fully capable of feeling and processing your pain, both from the past and pain from the present.

You help you through this process you can journal your feelings or seek the support of a licensed therapist or transformation coach to help you through your process.

If you'd like to schedule a time to speak with Teena you can do so HERE


Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC is a licensed therapist and transformational coach. She has been working in the helping profession for over 20 years and has a real passion and drive for helping people work through important life changes such as divorce, career transitions, and lifestyle change to minimize stress and design a life that aligns with their core values. Her Journey to Self-Discovery program is designed to uncover meaning in your existence while exploring your potential.





The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in helping people grow personally and develop professionally.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In this episode, I am speaking with Global Impact Visionary Leader Sue Dumais who is answering the call to heal the world. She is a best-selling author, an international speaker, a divine leader of light leaders, a sacred guide, a gifted intuitive healer, a miracle weaver, and a global voice of HOPE and inspiration for the “Heart YES Movement.”

Sue brings the gifts of insight, awareness, and self-empowerment to her global audience, creating a shift in consciousness from head to heart. Her mission is to ignite our hearts to uplift humanity and unify us in love for each other and our planet.

Through a divine blend of transformational guidance, unique perspectives, and a radically honest approach, Sue fosters deep healing and a profound awakening. She guides others to hear, answer, and trust the highest calling of their heart. Sue is passionate about illuminating the path for others as they discover, embrace, and embody their heart YES.

In our conversation we talk about:

📌  How to truly thrive as a helping professional

📌  Tips to make a greater impact as a healer

📌  Ways to uplift humanity without self-sacrifice

📌  Inspiration to realize your fullest potential 

Where To Find Sue





Improve Your Life and Work Satisfaction

I teach professionals simple ways to keep the normal stresses of being in the helping profession - from crossing the line into threatening their career, their marriage and even their life.

It’s tempting to blame others for all of our worries. The causes of burnout are complex for all of us and we each have a pattern of stresses that are as unique as our fingerprints. There are however burnout stressors that we all have in common. It’s important that you look at the stress patterns holistically and root out all causes of stress at work and at home.

Human blind spots

The first one is our human blind spots, we don’t learn to take care of ourselves in school. What we learn to do is survive by getting passing grades, making friends, staying out of trouble and graduating to the next grade, rank or level of approval. Self-care principles such as nutrition, rest, exercise and relationship skills fall by the wayside in pursuit of reaching out education and or career goals -  even if we are in the health and wellness industry. We don’t learn to care for our physical and energetic needs until after we experience an episode of burnout.  

I teach professionals simple ways to keep the normal stresses of being in the helping profession - from crossing the line into threatening their career, their marriage and even their life. 

Stress vs burnout

Let’s face it, life itself is stressful and if our stress is not managed properly can lead to burnout. As human beings we only have so much time and energy to give. There is a difference between stress and burnout. Stress is when you are drained, but you are still able to recover. Burnout begins when you are drained and NOT able to recover between your shifts or work life regime. 

The original burnout researcher, Herbert Freudenberger, describes this relentless downward spiral as...

...an erosion of the soul caused by a deterioration of one’s values, dignity, spirit and will.

Burnout is the development of a negative balance in your energy bank accounts. It’s a syndrome that has physical, psychological and spiritual components. When you cross the line from the “normal” stresses of being in the helping profession into job burnout you will begin to notice one or more of the following symptoms.

Maslach burnout inventory

These three main symptoms of job burnout are measured by a standardized research survey tool called the Maslach Burnout Inventory (MBI). 

They are:

  1. Exhaustion -physical, mental, emotional and spiritual exhaustion.
  2. Depersonalization - usually shows up as Compassion Fatigue, sarcasm, cynicism and blaming your patients or consumers.
  3. Lack of Efficacy - presenting as thoughts of “what’s the use”, doubting that your work makes any difference and/or questioning the quality of your work. 

These scales on the Maslach Burnout Inventory (MBI) each correspond to a negative balance in your Energetic Bank Account and you have three.

Exhaustion is your Professional Bank Account; Sarcasm, Cynicism, Blaming is your Emotional Bank Account; and “What’s the use?” is your Spiritual Bank Account meaning your deeper connection with meaning and purpose in your profession.

Your profession requires you to expend physical, emotional and spiritual energy as you work with your patients/clients/consumers.

Once you become aware of the three energetic accounts, your job becomes very clear. You need to keep all three accounts in a positive balance to do your job well, with high work life satisfaction. 

I invite you to check the balance in each of your three accounts, by asking yourself the following questions:

Your Physical Account

📌 How is your physical energy? Are you in a positive balance? 

Your Emotional Account

📌 How are you feeling emotionally? Are you getting your needs met with regards to your most important relationships?

Your Spiritual Account

📌 How connected are you to feeling like your work makes a difference and is a meaningful path for you?

The syndrome of burnout is a dilemma that needs a strategy in order to reach, as well as maintain a healthy energy balance in our work life. There are two methods of maintaining the balance we all seek:

📌 Lower the stress and energy drain

📌 Increase your ability to recharge 

Although it may sound simple, the truth is that preventing and treating job burnout involves a series of simple steps and none of them are easy for a busy professional because they sit in a hug blind spot created by our higher education.

► You were never taught how to lower your stress levels or create work life balance.

► There can be shame and guilt around getting your own needs met.

► You can fall into denial of your need for help, so you don’t ask for support no matter how burned out you might feel, because this would be a sign of weakness. 

There is not a quick fix to job burnout. It’s a series of little steps, done consistently overtime, that collectively produce significant changes in your life. It’s a process that takes some time and will absolutely require you to do things differently. If you follow these steps and apply these strategies you will get back to positive balances without having to quit your current position or change careers.

Here’s how you can get started:

STEP 1: Decrease the Drain to Lower Your Stress 

Think back over the past month or so and ask yourself the following questions:

► How draining is your day at work?

► What are the specific situations, people, activities and things that drain you most?

► How can you set yourself up to do LESS of the things that drain you most?

► What are the things you find the most rewarding and enjoyable at work?

► How can you set yourself up to do MORE of those things?

Decreasing the drain begins when you take a good honest look at what you don’t like about work and begin to accept it for what it is. This will get you into a healthier mindset where you stop blaming, complaining, and making excuses so that you can take action towards making some changes that will eliminate some of your stress.

STEP 2: Increase your Deposits to Increase Your Energy

What are your favorite recharging activities? Let’s look at the three bank accounts, physical, emotional and spiritual. 


► What things do you do outside of work that you find the most restful and rejuvenating? 

► When can you do more of these things?

► How can you take better care of your body through exercise and eating more healthfully?

► Which of these things could you begin to incorporate into your work day? 


► What relationships in your life give you the most joy and satisfaction?

► When was the last time you spent quality time nurturing these relationships?

► What makes you feel happy, joyful or gives you pleasure in life?


► What are the things in your life and at work that are most meaningful to you?

► What is your, “why”? Why did you choose the profession that you are in?

Your goal is to develop new habits that maintain a positive balance in all three of your accounts. This doesn’t happen naturally, it requires self-awareness to become more conscious of how you are using your power and spending your time and energy.

STEP 3: Get Started and Get Support 

As you answer the questions above, pick one area and get started. Notice the difference this change makes in how you feel at then end of your first day of trying it out. If you would like additional support in your healing process towards achieving a healthy balance of energy that leads to less stress overall in your personal and professional life, then I encourage you to schedule some time to talk with me.





The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in life and career coaching for professionals who strive for success and seek work-life balance.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Allyson Roberts. Allyson uses her Intuitive super powers to help women (and men) break behavioral patterns that no longer produce a desired result. She is a highly sought after speaker, panel expert and life coach. Allyson is internationally acclaimed and has been featured on The O’Reilly Factor, The Morning Show, Dallas Times Herald, and many other print publications, closed circuit programs, radio and podcasts. She is the proud owner of Outrageous Freedom celebrating her twelfth year in business and has served over 2000 clients worldwide.

In our conversation we talk about:

📌 What is the Imposter Syndrome

📌 The 5 Archetypes of the Imposter Syndrome

📌  How to recover from this syndrome

📌  The importance of tapping into your magic

Where To Find Allyson:






EP15: When Failure is NOT an Option

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In today’s episode I am speaking with Abigail Tiefenthaler, who is a paradigm shifting and bridge building consultant, wife, mom, and speaker. She meets business owners where they are by identifying simple and practical business steps that have the power to radically shift how they make decisions and positively impact their business, their community, and ultimately, their personal lives. She has been a solopreneur for 21 years and has built a $1MM business.

In this episode we talk about:

♥ The art of always saying “yes”, then figure it out later

♥ How each step is a challenge and a chance to be empowered

♥ Asking for a seat at the table will help you grow your business

♥ When failure is not an option, you’ve got to get uncomfortable

Where To Find Abigail





Get on the right path towards resilience 

We live in a time-starved world where many healthcare professionals are stuck in a state of fatigue and frustration as they try to manage their time and energy at work - and burnout has become the norm.

The burnout cycle

The cycle of burnout is a syndrome that has physical, psychological and spiritual components. It shows up as chronic physical exhaustion, cynicism, self-doubt, professional inefficacy and uncertainty about one’s purpose and direction in life.   

Time is a resource

Time is a resource that we all have a relationship with and as human beings we only have so much time and energy to give. When we feel like we’re always running up against the clock, with little to no energy to spare, we run the risk of chronic tension, anxiety, depression, and a decrease in the quality of our relationships.

As a result, we can feel overwhelmed and powerless. We lose touch with our aspirations for being a helping professional and we work on overdrive, pushing ourselves to our limits to stay on top of what already feels impossible. The uncertainty of how much longer we can sustain this way of being and working diminishes any sense of hope for change.

Grit and resilience

Before I got into the helping profession, I worked as Fisheries Biologist in Alaska. For 10 years, I lived remote with very little access to technology. The demands of my job were dictated more by the seasons and weather patterns than anything else. I learned important life skills such as grit and resilience and a connection to something much greater than myself that I can’t even explain. This become my inner power source, a true source of strength and inspiration that fueled my career aspirations at the time and helped me manage the physical demands of my job and psychological impact of living remote. 

When I left Alaska and returned to the lower 48 to pursue a career change in healthcare, I had to go through a reintegration process. This process required me to learn how to manage my time and energy in a world where everything seemed to be moving so fast. I no longer felt like I had an an abundance of time and I was being pulled in several directions at once. As result of the increased work demands, I was forced to learn new skills and strategies to survive, so that I didn’t drain my main power source.

Although I believed that every new step was a challenge and an opportunity to be empowered, I lost touch with my aspirations. As result, my main power source got drained and my grit and resilience weren’t enough to keep me from getting caught in the cycle of burnout.

Your internal power source

I’ve been there many times and didn’t even know it, because I thought it was just that I wasn’t strong enough or smart enough or competitive enough to make it work. I thought that simply changing the environment that exposed me to situations where burnout was caused would be enough for me to recover, but this wasn’t enough. I knew I had to find a way to plug back into my internal power source, in order to restore the energy that I’d lost. 

3 steps to break the cycle of burnout

Here are the 3 things that I did to begin to break free from the cycle of burnout.

  1. The first thing I did was increase my self-awareness so that I could be more conscious of how I was using my power and spending my time and energy. Our self-awareness is the first step towards changing anything.
  2. The second thing I did was learn to focus on the right things. Fortunately, I  had a mentor who taught me to focus my attention on only two things in life to be successful. First, focus your attention on what you are really good at and passionate about that adds massive value to others and a generous income for you. Second, when you’re not doing that to completely unplug, relax and rejuvenate so that you can get your energy back. 
  3. The third thing I did was learn to eliminate the things in my life that robbed my energy. It can be really powerful to identify the things in your life that are draining your energy. It could be your environment, a relationship or something you feel ashamed of or guilty about. Whatever it is, seek professional help to create a plan to eliminate these things so you can plug back into your power source and fully recharge. 

Get support

Breaking out of the cycle of burnout and getting onto the right path towards resilience is essential for healthcare professionals who are stuck in fatigue and frustration from trying to manage the demands of their job. If you are a healthcare professional experiencing signs of burnout, I want to encourage you to get support. 


Healing begins when we can reclaim our power, own our time and tap back into our greatest aspirations. Then we can do the work we’re meant to do, feeling fully powered up with an improved sense of wellbeing and overall greater satisfaction in our work life.



Know Your Worth



The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in helping career-oriented professionals who strive for success also achieve work-life balance. 

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

.In today’s episode, I am speaking with Carmen W. Landrau, MD a board certified physician who specializes in cardiology, a professional keynote speaker and business coach. She is originally from Puerto Rico but has been living in Houston, TX for more than 16 years.

Dr. Landrau completed her medical training at Ponce School of Medicine, followed by a residency in internal medicine and fellowship in cardiology, both at The University of Texas Medical School in Houston. After her graduation she was hired as part of the staff of the cardiology division at UT and later on opened her own private practice.

As a professional speaker, Dr. Landrau uses her experience navigating a male-dominated and hierarchical career to empower other women and help them recognize their talents, and voice their achievements. This in turn leads them to regain confidence, and take the next steps in their careers and in life. As business coach she works with women business owners who want to improve their business visibility to reach their ideal clients.

In today’s episode we talk about:

📌 What it means to own your worth in a male-dominated, hierarchical industry

📌  What makes you worthy of achieving your goals

📌  The importance of speaking your truth and projecting confidence at work

📌 Discovering what makes you unique and believing in yourself

📌   Tips for managing your time and energy as a professional woman with a family

Where to find Dr. Carmen Landrau


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