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Own Your Power

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EP7: PERSONAL LEADERSHIP MASTERY

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In today’s episode, my intention is to help you gain greater clarity on how you can best Own Your Power as woman in business by sharing with you 5-Steps To Personal Leadership Mastery!

This is one of my favorite topics because these are the exact 5 steps that have made the biggest impact and transformation in my life, especially since I made the development of my personal leadership a top priority. The truth is, I was sick and tired of feeling down on myself and showing up dis-empowered, rather than believing in myself and showing up as my empowered self in every area of my life – with friends, colleagues, clients, family even when I was spending time alone.

I learned how to consistently show up with a higher vibration or at least recognize that I always had a choice about how I showed up. I learned to show up in a way that was true to myself and this felt really good. From this experience, I am excited to share this information with you. If it brings you hope and inspiration to seek professional support (because you can’t go it alone) then I have done my job in guiding you on your path to reaching your fullest potential.

Isn’t that what you want to strive for?

Why spend your precious time and energy being mediocre or settling for less than you know you deserve or just staying in a funk because that’s all you think you know how to do. Stop it I say, pick yourself up and get some support, guidance and help in turning your life around so you can be proud of standing in your own power and navigating life from a place that feels GOOD.

In this episode you will learn:

♥ To identify your biggest fear

♥ How to become more efficient

♠ Ways to uncover you deeper purpose

♥ Understand your relationship with power

♥ How to gain more time and energy


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What Is Personal Leadership?

EP6: ASSESS YOUR INNER ADVANTAGE™

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

Hey, welcome back to the Claim The Lead Podcast. I am so glad you’re listening to today’s episode, whether you’re already a subscriber and have been tuning in weekly to our shows or if this is your first time listening – WELCOME!

Today, I want to speak more about personal leadership so that you know exactly what it is and how it applies to you and your life.

I also have a personal leadership assessment that I promise to share with you at the end of this episode,  so you can determine whether you’re just living your life or truly claiming the lead.

For women, it’s our self doubt, lack of confidence and overwhelm that diminishes and erodes our power as natural leaders.

Personal Leadership is so important – in fact, renowned management expert Peter Drucker once called it, “The only leadership that’s going to matter in the 21st century.

Women leaders (at all levels) are looking for a means to become more influential and impactful in the workplace. They want to know how to feel more confident when challenged with difficult conversations and how to manage their energy and time day-to-day so they can have less overall stress and greater health and wellbeing. They want more authentic connections and relationships and feel powerful in their place of business as a leader.

Achieving gender parity is a common goal amongst women in the 21st century. Every day more women are stepping up into higher leadership positions and are looking for always to become more effective and impactful in their roles without compromising their own core values, but rather fully expressing their unique gifts and qualities as an emerging leader.

Women still get paid 82 cents on every dollar and believe they have to show up like a man and do a man’s job rather than embrace their feminine power. Self-doubt, lack of confidence and overwhelm are diminishing women’s power as natural leaders.

At Claim The Lead, we offer a variety of personal leadership development programs for women leaders (at all levels) to help them become the catalyst for change that is needed to achieve gender parity.

In this episode you will learn:

♥ What personal leadership is and isn’t.

♥ Why women should develop and strengthen their personal leadership.

♥ How to determine whether you’re just living your life or truly claiming the lead.

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Powerful Practices To Maintain Optimal Weight and Vibrant Energy

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EP5: SIMPLE PRACTICES AND WHOLE FOODS

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

Welcome to this week’s episode, which I think you will find very interesting especially if you are not in your 20’s or 30’s anymore. If this is the case, you might remember growing up during the era of fat-free diets. You may have experienced a variety of mental, emotional and physical problems related to not eating enough or not eating the right foods to maintain a healthy weight or give you vibrant energy. Although times have changed this old habits may still be negatively impacting your overall health and well being.

In today’s episode I have the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Sarica Cernohous. She is a dedicated to helping women maintain their optimal weight and vibrant energy as they move beyond their 30s, using simple practices and whole foods. She is the Founder of Naturally Living Today and the author of “The Funky Kitchen”.

I hope you enjoy the conversation as much as I did!

In this episode you will learn:

♥ What is biohacking, food preparation and whole foods?

♥ Basic strategies women can use to manage a healthy weight.

♥ How to maintain the weight and energy you had in your 20’s and 30’s.

♥ The importance of taking care of the future YOU.

♥ How to boost your overall health and well-being.

Where to Find Sarica

Website: https://naturallylivingtoday.com

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Own The Fabulous Woman in YOU

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EP4: OWN THE FABULOUS WOMAN IN YOU

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In this episode I have a lively conversation with a wonderful woman, her name is Shanna Kabatznick. Shanna is the Founder and Chief Empowerment Officer of FABWOMEN. She shares her story of overcoming uncertainty and her life detours have put her right where she needs to be.

Shanna was born in Quito, Ecuador to a Jewish American father and Spanish Catholic mother, Shanna moved to the United States where she attended Mississippi State University, receiving a Bachelor of Arts degree in Management Information Systems. As a successful business leader, professional speaker and presenter, published author, strategist and trainer with over 20 years’ experience in the finance and banking industry, Shanna has dedicated her career to helping women achieve financial health and freedom.She is a speaker and author on topics of interest affecting women such as diversity, small business growth strategy, women and money.

In this episode we talk about:

♥ How it’s okay to be creatively crazy at times.

♥ Why it’s important to feel and be connected.

♥ The gift of life’s detours.

♥ How to pivot when your happily-ever-after doesn’t happen.

♥ What is FABWomen and how to learn more.

Where to Find Shanna

Email: shanna@fabwomen.me

Website: http://www.fabwomen.me

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Manifest The Best Version of You

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EP3: OWN YOUR TIME, OWN YOUR POWER

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

Success in business, life and love takes work to develop the skills and strategies to achieve your goals and reach your dreams. Your success starts with YOU and the development of your personal leadership. Learning both the inner game of personal success and the outer game of business success will streamline your productivity and elevate your growth to new heights.

In this episode you will learn:

♥ The secret to setting and achieving your goals.

♥ The #1 thing you must do to double your productivity.

♥ 10 Tips to manifest your unlimited potential.

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True Secrets To Happiness

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EP2: HEALING FROM TRAUMA

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

Today’s show is a conversation with America’s #1 Resilient Trainer, Michelle Nagel. She is an international bestselling author, HeartMath Certified Trainer, Master Herbalist, Energy Therapist, and the President and Founder of Soulshift, Inc. She’s been leading workshops for over 15 years, empowering people to take responsibility for their own health and well-being.

Michelle’s book, Suffering is Optional: Step Out of Darkness Into the Light is a guide to help people identify and overcome past traumas so they can live a vibrant and fulfilled life. As a survivor of childhood abuse, Michelle understands the lasting impact these and other traumatic experiences can have throughout life. Through years of study, Ms Nagel developed a process that empowers clients to overcome the limiting beliefs and negative patterns that keep them from living a more fulfilling life. She is gifted at getting to the heart of a problem and identifying the reasons behind why people do the things they do. Michelle’s passion is for “Helping People Go From Who They Are To Who They Want To Be.”

In this episode you will learn:

♥ How to recover and heal from trauma.

♥ The practice of resilience.

♥ The power of choice. 

♥ How to transform your life.

Where to Find Michelle

Website: http://isoulshift.com/

Book: http://isoulshift.com/suffering-is-optional/

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Energy and Vibration

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EP1: HOW IT IMPACTS YOUR INFLUENCE

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

In today’s episode I am featuring my dear friend and colleague Maree Eddings. She is an energy vibration expert who works with women who are ready to work their influence by using their own energy instead of tapping into other people.

Her mission is to help energy sensitive women use their superpowers of energy so they can lead this world into a new level of consciousness.

In this episode you will learn:

The importance of being energy conscious and how it is highly strategic

Tips to discern your energy from others and how this improves your influence

Ways to use your innate skills and talents to claim the lead in your life, work and love

Where to Find Maree

Instagram: @mareeeddings

Website: https://mareeeddings.com/

Time To Vibe with Maree Podcast: https://mareeeddings.com/podcast/

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Introduction

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EP0: EXPECTATIONS & INSPIRATIONS

The Claim The Lead Podcast is a weekly conversation with your host Teena Evert MA, LMFT, LAC, PC. She is the Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead, where she specializes in job burnout solutions and personal leadership development for healthcare professionals.

Through interviews and stories Teena will explore all aspects of personal leadership, which is the leadership of the self connected to the emotional and psychological well being of women to help develop greater self-awareness, satisfaction and success in life, work and love.

Today’s episode will be different than other episodes, because today I wanted to tell you about what this podcast is about and what you can expect from it. I also wanted to share a little about myself and the inspiration for this podcast.

“If your actions create a legacy that inspires others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, then, you are an excellent leader.” – Dolly Parton

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The Power of Joy

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Follow The Path To Joy

I’ve read in numerous self -help books that in order to find your desired outcome, you must follow the path of joy. This makes a lot of sense, but it doesn’t always feel accessible.

Recently, I felt anything but joyful. I was working long hours that extended well into the evening. I wasn’t managing my time or my energy well, and it was taking a toll on my physical, mental and emotional health. 

I noticed that I felt irritable and on edge most days. I was quick to react to things that I would normally not bother me. These were all symptoms that I was out of balance. I was out of synch with myself and I knew I needed to get back on track and back onto the path of joy!

Your Purpose

I’ve always had a personal success ritual that I do most mornings to start my day. This gets me in the right mindset and emotional state to be focused and productive throughout the day.  When I stopped doing my ritual, I quickly lost my footing and slipped into old patterns and behaviors. I was working really long hours without a break and giving way more than I had to give without refueling. Thus the symptoms of irritability, being on edge and quick to react to the little things.  

So back to my personal success ritual. I had to reset my intentions and get realigned with my purpose. It was like coming up for air after holding my breath for too long!

Your life’s purpose is supported by the joy and passion you feel when you’re thinking about or working on your purpose. The joy that you feel within relationships keeps them alive, exciting and growing. 

Joy Has The Highest Energy Vibration

My personal success ritual helps me stay connected to the things in life that I truly enjoy and have fun doing. Life is not all about work, driving for results and becoming more profitable. If it is, the joy will soon drain out of you. 

The joy that comes from your hobbies gives you extra energy. Of all the emotions, joy has the highest energy vibration.

Joy has the power to remove all obstacles and attract all of your needs. Joy reminds us that we needn’t suffer at all. We can fulfill our purpose help ourselves and others, and heal through the power of joy. 

Do What Brings You Joy?

How do you stay positive and focused on manifesting your desires into reality?

Can you find humor in situations and enjoy a good laugh? 

Do you have hobbies that bring you pleasure? If not, what might they be? 

To find your life’s purpose do what brings you joy.

I invite you to take same time to develop a personal success ritual. Every client that I have worked with has created their own unique personal success ritual and implemented it. Not only have they found themselves being more productive, they also experienced more sustained joy. 

Own your time, own your power and follow the path to joy!

If you’d like to learn more about how to create your own personal success ritual, you can reach me by sending an email to hello@teenaevert.com.

xo 

Teena

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The Power of Speaking Up

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How To Be Assertive And Make A Positive Impact

Do you hold yourself back from speaking up?

How many times has your response been meek or perhaps too aggressive?

Where do you find the courage and confidence to be assertive?

Why You Don’t Speak Up

There are many reasons for not speaking up. You might not speak up to avoid conflict, fear of hurting someone’s feelings, or the responsibility that comes with stating your truth and standing in your power. Assertiveness is often incorrectly confused with aggressiveness, but assertiveness is characterized  by mutual respect and clear, open, and honest communication. Aggressive behavior on the other hand is disrespectful and shuts people down. 

In order to have the courage to speak up and assert yourself, you must let go of your attachment to being liked by everyone. In order to be okay with this, you will need to develop your self-confidence, self-awareness and purpose. This will require you to be in tune with yourself and engaged in the world, physically, mentally and emotionally.

I believe that women have refrained from speaking up for so long that there are now slogans such as, lady boss, (fill in the blank) like a boss, and badass or badassery being used to describe empowerment programs for women.

There’s a lot of energy around getting women to speak up and take more action towards living life on their own terms. I believe this recharge of energy is much needed, however I think that it can often come with a lot of drama. Unfortunately this can diminish the powerful message that is trying to be conveyed without a positive impact.

Take Time To Heal

Speaking up and being assertive, for women as a collective, is absolutely necessary for a cultural shift. To make a positive impact with our messages of being in our power, we must first heal the wounds that have kept us falling victim to life’s circumstances and not speaking up and embracing our power in the first place.

If you don’t take the time and necessary steps to heal, you can easily move into a power-over, self-righteous energy that results in a negative impact, because it puts others down in order to raise ourselves up. Not only does this not give you the opportunity to embrace your power, it may cause you to lose your power in the end. It is very important that you learn to understand your relationship with power.

Power Unused Is Power Useless

Taking a power-to approach to speaking up is about knowing yourself by growing your self-awareness, intention, integrity and confidence. A leader is someone who gets something done and is changing the power paradigm from power-over to power-to. We can intentionally change the meaning of power in order to embrace it authentically and comfortably as a woman. Glora Feldt, author of No Excuses, states, that Power-over is the old, oppressive power paradigm that is dying. Power-to is the new paradigm and innovative power and leadership paradigm that is emerging, if we make it so.

Speaking up and asserting your self to claim the lead is essential for you to make a greater impact as a woman. Katie Orenstein, Founder of the Op Ed Project said, “It is important for women not just to have the power to choose; but to choose power.” When you take an assertive stance you directly say what you mean and ask for what you want.

Beware Of The Passive-Aggressive Trap

When you leave your feelings unexpressed, anger and frustration can come out sidewise, or not directly. This type of behavior is often termed “passive-aggressive.” Here are some potential scenarios where passive-aggressive behavior plays out. You might respond to your co-workers request to stay late with her to finish a project with a silent treatment or eye roll. Passive aggression in asking for a raise might include sending a complaint about your heavy workload in a long, detailed email, without specifically asking for what you want. While passive-aggressive behavior might make you feel momentarily relieved, your goals won’t be accomplished. By returning to an assertive stance and directly saying what you mean and asking for what you want, you have a better chance of getting your needs met. 

Network With Purpose

Speaking up and claiming the lead in your life will require you to learn about leadership. I knew little about leadership when I chose to become an entrepreneur. I have since soaked up every leadership course I could find and I found the following networking tips to be the most impactful to this day.

Most women love to network, because networking is seen as primarily relational. I think you would agree that it’s essential to be friendly, authentic, and generous to others, but networking must also be done with purpose and intention if it is to be effective. To speak up and network with purpose, two exchanges will usually occur, an ask and an offer.

Asking for what you want by name is a practice women must learn, and to learn you must practice, if you are to build a life and career that you want. It’s part of owning your power and knowing your worth.

Give it a try and see what happens. In every networking opportunity, identify in advance what you want from the interchange. Then at least once during the conversation, “Ask for it by name.”

Make an offer. What do you have that the other person wants or needs? If she or he does not tell you, ask for that information by name too. Is it something you can offer to provide? If so, say so, and be sure to follow through. If not, say so, and offer an alternative that is something you can deliver on.

Once you have made an ask and an offer in a networking situation (it doesn’t matter which comes first as long as both are done), you have created a mutually beneficial relationship. Relationships that are mutually beneficial are more likely to be sustained, grow over time, be more egalitarian and make a greater impact.

I hope this post will encourage you to speak up and not be afraid of your own power and the impact you can make when you assert yourself with purpose and intention.

Power-to YOU!

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The Power of Self-Awareness

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How To Successfully Navigate Life’s Challenges

What Is Self-Awareness?

Self-awareness is conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires. We develop our self-awareness by fully engaging in our lives physically, mentally, and emotionally.
 
By fully engaging in our life we collect experiences that teach us about ourselves. We get in touch with our own unique perspective on things, which informs our feelings and actions. The more we understand ourselves and how we engage with life, when we’re both at our best and under stress, the easier it is to live authentically and in alignment with our true selves.
 
There’s a lot of talk about the importance of being your best self, your true self, and your authentic self. What does this all mean exactly? It means that you have enough self-awareness to make clear choices in your life that are inspired and motivated by your own wants and desires, as opposed to being lead or dictated by anothers.
 
Being you best self means embracing your power. Living true to yourself is about being fully expressed. Being authentic means living in alignment with your core values and unapologetically paving the way along your unique life path.

Turn Your Attention Inward

Many leaders in the personal and professional development industry say that self-awareness is the key to success. I could not agree more. Self-awareness is essential for being able to successfully navigate through almost any situation, particularly difficult ones.
 
How many times have you had a problem that required you to slow down and turn your attention inward to find the answers?
 
Even though the process of solving the problem may have required you to initially get external support to help you put things into perspective, it was your self-awareness that led you to the solution.

Take Time To Self Reflect

If you are going through a particularly challenging time in your life (personally or professionally), I encourage you to carve some time out of your busy schedule to self reflect on the following questions:
 

What is happening right now?

Why is this happening?

What do I want to make happen?

How am I going to make it happen?

Don’t worry so much about the “how”, but rather focus your attention on getting crystal clear on the issue at hand. Develop your perspective by writing it out or talking it through with someone you trust who can listen without judgment or giving advice. The “how” will naturally arise out of your ability to become self-aware.

The Power of Your Self-Awareness

You will know you have arrived at the solution to your problem when you feel it in your whole being. There will be a deep knowing of what to do next in order to reach a resolution. Then you can craft a strategic plan with the right action steps.
 
Getting support at this time could be helpful, as you already know the direction you want to go in. No one can tell you where you want to go. This must come from you and comes from the power of your self-awareness.
 
Beware of others who tell you how you feel and what you must do. If you follow their suggestions you are giving your power away. You must embrace your power and claim the lead in your life if you want to make the best choices in life that support you along your unique life’s journey.
 
By not claiming the lead and choosing to be in the driver’s seat you resign yourself to the backseat. When you are not fully engaged physically, mentally and emotionally in your life or striving to do so, your self-confidence will erode over time and your personal power will diminish.

Boost Your Power

To help you boost the power of your self-awareness answer the follow question, then take inspired action.
 
What are 3 things you must do every day (or on a regular basis) to be able to fully engage physically, mentally and emotionally in your life?
 
Please leave a comment below. I would love to hear from you and have the opportunity to connect with you and offer you support if needed.
 
Power To You, 
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3 Keys To Personal Leadership Mastery

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Accelerate Your Success

Above all when it comes to claiming the lead in your personal and professional life, you must develop your self-awareness. Certainly if you want to reach your fullest potential in your personal life and your business matters.

Effective leadership requires you to look at yourself and how things occur in your daily life. This is due to the internal issues to overcome when you have people follow you. Remember that human life is meant for growth. Consequently, this will require you to get out of your comfort zone more often than you’d probably like.

Find Your Leadership Style

As a leader, you’re responsible for huge potential in your life. Not living up to that potential can eat away at you. You strive to always go towards greatness and excellence. It seems like most of us live well below our potential. Finding out what it is you need to be doing in life is essential to fulfilling your purpose as a human being. For the reason that people lead in different ways, it’s important to find your own leadership style.

Personal Power In Leadership

There is a high level of responsibility that comes with being a good leader. I believe that everyone can learn to lead if they are willing to be awake, accountable and responsible for leading. Leading is to embrace your power and claim the freedom of being true to who you are. Leadership is something you earn; it’s a path of growth and we all want to grow. Certainly, it’s not easy, but it’s a choice. You need to decide to be it and step into owning it.

First of all, to help you step fully into embracing your power and owning your choice to claim the lead in both your personal and professional life – I highly encourage you to develop your self-awareness in the following key areas:

3 Key Areas of Personal Leadership Mastery

#1) Managing Your Mindset

Developing your self-awareness to manage your mindset will allow you to refocus your mind. Leadership is like yoga in that it means taking charge of how the mind works, by redirecting how you think and act.

Peter Koestenbaum, the author of The Inner Side of Greatness, A Philosophy for Leaders says, “A leader must wrestle with inward issues. He or she is expected to have great aspirations, confront great frustrations, achieve great self-control, suffer great betrayals, and manifest great compassion. Addressing the personal side of leadership also requires attention to vision and to scope, for the leader’s mind must be all-encompassing.”

This addresses how leaders think differently. It can make you look at yourself and how things occur in your daily life and how you chose to respond or react in such a way that promotes growth.

#2) Mastering Work-Life Balance

Developing your self-awareness is essential to master work-life balance, which is constantly going up and down like a teeter-totter. I don’t believe that it can stay in the middle for a long time. You must become clear and self-aware of which side you are teetering on.

Furthermore, you need to be able to be aware of when you are spending too much time working and when you’ve spent too much time on your life and not working. The process of becoming more self-aware is a journey of self-discovery. It will require you to look closely and deeply at what you need to do to stay focused on returning to balance over and over again.

#3) Leading Without Old Patterns

The truth is, when you step into leadership, you step out of your comfort zone. Hence when you step out of your comfort zone, old patterns will inevitably come up for you that could prevent you from reaching your fullest potential if you’re not aware of them. Therefore, you must be aware of your old patterns in order to change them, as well as to get in touch with your higher qualities. You have to learn to lead your new life and not lead with old patterns – this is where self-awareness comes into play.

Claim The Lead

Claiming the lead in your personal life and business matters will not be easy. I recommend you begin to gather key players in your life to support you along your journey of self-discovery. One of your key players should be a personal leadership coach. Above all you will accelerate the development of your self-awareness by working directly with a leadership coach, because they can help you navigate the choppy waters that come with getting out of your comfort zone.

Effective leadership requires self-awareness. Your self-awareness will become your greatest asset  and support you in taking responsibility and accountability for claiming the lead.

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7 Guidelines To Help You Get Unstuck

7 Guidelines To Help You Find Your Next Steps

Here are 7 guidelines to help you get yourself unstuck. Maybe you need help to find your way if you feel lost in life. No matter where you were trying to go these steps will help move forward.

1 – Always take adequate time to rest and restore if you are tired, confused or overwhelmed.

2 – Acknowledge how far you have come and celebrate even the smallest wins.

3 – Challenging circumstances are really lessons in disguise.

4 – Recognize when you have lost your way.

5 – Learn to trust yourself.

6 – Know your deeper purpose.

7 – Stay connected to your passion.

Make A Choice

It’s not always easy to move forward, when you feel stuck and want to give up. At this crossroads, you have two choices. Either hit the pause button to rest and restore before pushing forward. Or hit the go button and use all of your effort to push through the feelings of wanting to give up. There is no right or wrong way to proceed. You do, however, have to make a choice and I highly recommend being conscious about the choices you make.

I have learned to choose to hit the pause button and take a rest to restore before pushing forward. Taking time to rest and restore is essential. Because you need to be able to stay committed to why you are traveling your path in the first place. If you over effort you run the risk of not listening to your heart. Hence, you end up in the wrong field and off the wrong trail. You’re so turned around to the point you are disoriented and confused.

If this happens to you, pause, rest, recount your steps and do whatever it takes to get back into alignment.

Look Back At How Far You’ve Come

You’ll know when you are there, because the uncertainty and confusion will turn to certainty and clarity. This is a moment to celebrate. Take a few deep breaths and look around at your surroundings. Feel into your body, to stretch out your arms and your legs and begin to acknowledge how far you have come.

In this moment of celebration, it’s not about where you’re going. It’s an opportunity to  acknowledge how far you have come. Take a pause. Take it in. Let it marinate in your cells. Enjoy the nourishment and journey of your life. Breathe it in. Share it and be the light.

Stop Playing Small

Playing small only served me when I was physically small and meek. My stature motivated me to grow bigger and stronger so that I could have more energy and stamina. I wanted to feel energetic and strong and accomplish things. Be engaged with others in ways where I felt included and not excluded. I was inspired to keep up, to grow up, and to fit in at least enough not to stand out.

Now, as I am older and much wiser, I prefer to stand out. I don’t want to be like everyone else, but rather to be perceived as extraordinary. To inspire others by the risks that I have taken to succeed. When I say succeed, what I mean is to have had the courage to follow my dreams. To continue along my journey (with rest breaks), even when it got tough and I wanted to turn back.

The reality is, where was I going to turn back to? I had to learn how to keep moving forward and adjust to the different circumstances that I faced. These challenging circumstances were all lessons in disguise. They helped me develop my personal stamina. As a result, I became more resilient, flexible and adaptable in a world of drama, chaos and constant change.

Along my personal journey I would at times get derailed. I would forget my deeper purpose and disconnect from my passion. I was good at chasing bright shiny objects that gave me the illusion of a short cut. Usually I would fall for this illusion when I neglected to take a rest break. Therefore, I became tired and hungry and fearful. When my resistance to move forward was challenged, I would see the bright shiny object and blindly follow it. Unfortunately, sometimes for years before I realized I was completely off course.

Get Back On Track

The hardest part about getting back on track for me, was not realizing I had lost my way. I had to also learn to trust that when I got back on course, I would know what steps to take next. I wouldn’t feel lost and vulnerable and scared forever. Initially, I would be very uncomfortable, but after a few steps forward my traction would be regained. Hence, I would know in my bones that I was back home, trailblazing in the right direction on the right path.

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How Relationships Are Pivotal To Sustaining Health

Build Better Relationships With Others

Shift Into Receptive Mode

Many of use who are committed to personal growth to create your ideal life for a long time. As a result, we have become aware of their coping mechanisms. These coping mechanisms have been very helpful for getting oneself out of survival mode. When we’re out of survival mode we can move into creating our life. Then we can take full responsibility for our actions, set clear intentions, and align our emotions with our desires.

This important growth process must move beyond concepts and practices that get us out of our constant mind chatter. We also need to learn how to get into our bodies to be in receptive mode. This allows us to receive our life in the present moment. Learning to receive what is next for you will significantly raise your level of well being and keep you out of survival mode.

This all takes place in relationships with others, because we learn how to navigate the push and pull energy of our interaction dynamics. When there is too much push or not enough pull we get out of synch.  We move back into survival mode and lose our ability to be receptive to the moment. When we’re receptive we can utilize our innate wisdom in creating a life that is purposeful, meaningful and rich.

It is not about how smart you are. It’s about how open you are to learning new and powerful rituals. Rituals that prime the brain for trust, partnership, and mutual success.

The Neurochemistry of Relationships

Human beings have a need to belong. This considered by neuroscientists and psychologists to be more powerful than the need for physical safety and security. We are learning that social interactions cause us to either move towards or away from others, and each interaction has the power to trigger protection or growth.

When our interactions with others are healthy we have a healthy state of mind and can engage with others toward mutual success. Oxytocin is elevated, cortisol is lowered, and our capacity to heal ourselves is also high.

Relationships, especially healthy ones, are pivotal to sustaining health. When we are alone or disconnected from others, our own state of being shifts. Our cortisol levels elevate. Fear of being rejected or judged surface. We struggle to experience the world around us as safe and accepting. Hence, feelings of doubt, fear and distress become elevated.

Do you find yourself struggling in your relationships with others?  Here are a few best practices to help you show up in the world with new eyes and healthier interactions.

Releasing The Past

Let go of holding onto the past and old feelings about others.  This can be very deleterious to our health and to our ability to have healthy relationships. Without healthy relationships, we can live shorter lives, be prone to illness, and can live in a state of ‘making things up that don’t exist.’

Learning to ‘release the past’ that may be unhealthy is important when we are focusing on having healthy relationships in our lives.

Reframing Your Relationship

The ability to reframe our relationships and work through challenges with people is essential for health. So, applying our skills in reframing relationships can be the most essential and impactful thing we can do to enhance the quality of our lives.

Refocusing On What Is Healthy

Ignoring our feelings toward others, especially if they are negative feelings is almost impossible. If we have bad history with someone, we can pretend it doesn’t exist but it is still having an effect on us at the unconscious level. Learn to handle the relationship in where you acknowledge what is true and possible. By refocusing on what is healthy and possible shifts the neurochemistry of your relationship. It can also  change the trajectory of your lives.

Redirecting Our Emotional State

When we are uncertain about how others will feel about us there is a tendency to go into protect behavior. We may have a history of distrust and protection built into our brain, and this may become our default mode.

Accepting this is a possibility, but not the only state we will be in, gives us the opportunity to sustain the reality of making change happen. Even in spite of our neurochemical shifts. Redirecting enables us to move into a healthier state.

Intention and Impact

Conversations are about patterns and energy not just about information. Through our conversations, as your coach, insights will emerge about the patterns that will enable you to work on conversational strategies to elevate the link between intention and impact.

Our work together will help you bring change into the world that will empower more transparency, stronger relationships, deeper understanding, broader and more profound and shared success, and most of all the ability to tell the truth – to close the chasm’s that separate us – one from another.

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Don’t Think Like An Elephant

Change Your Thinking To Change Your Behavior

Throw Off The Shackles

If women leaders want to embrace their power, we must first reject baby elephant thinking. We have to throw off the shackles of learned behavior that no longer serves us.

It’s said that when a baby elephant is being trained, she is tied to a post almost immediately after birth. During the first few weeks of life she attempts to break free of her restraints, but she’s not strong enough. So she comes to believe she can’t get away from what is holding her back.

Hence, even after she has grown large and plenty powerful to uproot the post entirely. As a consequence she remains tied to the post even as an adult. Unfortunately this is due to an internally motivated behavior that is no longer rooted in external reality.

Know Your Limitations

Most of us at some point in our lives, have repeated patterns of behavior that have only limited us. Maybe you became aware of your patterns and did something to change it. Or perhaps your lack of awareness has kept you stuck playing victim to life’s circumstances.

Million Dollar Questions

How many times have you remained stuck in your thinking?

When I was in my early 30’s, I moved to the lower 48 after spending nearly a decade living in Alaska. The remote region where I lived was physically separated from any source of civilization by the enormous ice field. I became used to the fact that I couldn’t easily leave my surroundings. The only way in and out was via float plane or boat on a really good weather day.

I then moved to a small yet highly populated island. I could drive the length and circumference of the island in under an hour. Although my years of living in Alaska were breathtakingly beautiful my ability to easily break away from living a remote lifestyle was limited and I was stuck thinking and living small.

Stuck Thinking

With that said, when I moved to Colorado, I was stuck in thinking that I was confined by the boundaries of the town I was living in. I didn’t even consider taking a road trip to the next county over!

While living in Alaska, I also got used to being nestled between the mountains and the ocean. In Southeast Alaska the mountains rise right out of the ocean. So when I would hike in the mountains along the front range of Colorado and look out over the plains, I would see water or perhaps what used to be underwater.

Expand Your Thinking

This is an example of how my limited thinking became very conditioned by the external environment in which I lived. I was living in Colorado, far away from any ice fields or islands. Although some would argue that Boulder, CO is 10 square miles surrounded by reality.

Even though I was no longer living in remote Alaska, I still felt a sense of confinement and limitation towards embracing my power to expand my thinking and way of being.

Today, when I recollect that experience, I can see how much I struggled. During the 8 years that I lived in Boulder, I was on a journey of self-discovery. Unfortunately, I was still stuck in baby elephant thinking and living a life with limits.

Self-Awareness

Fortunately, I was able to gain enough self-awareness and the inner strength to throw off my self-imposed shackles. As a result, I reclaimed my power and decided to relocate to Denver, where I now teach women in business personal leadership development so they can embrace their power and drive business to earn their worth.

The risk you face, if you want to continue to think like an elephant will be a life where you always see your limitations. They will begin to define you and you will feel powerless to change.

Unleash Your Power

The very first step to release the shackles that are holding you back is awareness. You have to become aware of the learned behaviors that are no longer serving you. Commit yourself to develop your own personal leadership. This will help you to become authentically confident, powerful and free to make a greater impact in the world.

Whether you are training a baby elephant, or going through your own training called life. I encourage you to pay attention to your self-imposed limitations. The limitations that are no longer rooted in external reality.

Please don’t think like an elephant. Unleash your power by rejecting what no longer serves you. Learn to embrace what will lead you to live a life without limits and stop thinking like a baby elephant.