Effective & Impactful Couples Work
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Couples Who Work Together Stay Together
Love is a remarkable force in our lives, capable of shaping our identities and nurturing our sense of self-worth and self-esteem. It’s a sentiment that often deepens when we find ourselves in a loving and supportive relationship. Join Couples Therapist, Teena Evert as she explores how couples who collaborate and support one another tend to thrive, we delve into the profound impact that love can have on our personal growth and well-being.
4 Ways Couples Work Together
Learning to Love Ourselves
One of the most beautiful aspects of being in a loving relationship is how it teaches us to love ourselves. When we experience the affection, care, and acceptance of a partner, it mirrors back to us the idea that we are lovable just as we are. It offers a powerful counter-narrative to our own self-doubts and insecurities. This experience can be transformative, gradually helping us build a positive self-image and a deeper appreciation for our own unique qualities.
In Each Other’s Care
Couples often become each other’s pillars of support, encouraging the practice of self-care. In a loving partnership, we observe the value of taking care of ourselves not just for our own sake but for the sake of our relationship. As we see our partner prioritize self-care, it becomes a shared value, and we learn that nurturing our well-being is an essential ingredient in maintaining a healthy connection. From physical health to emotional well-being, self-care becomes a mutual goal that strengthens the bond between partners.
The Development of Self-Worth
Our self-worth is not solely an internal construct but is also influenced by the way others perceive and treat us. In the context of a loving relationship, we receive consistent affirmation of our value. This validation from a partner can serve as a foundation for our self-esteem. It teaches us that we are deserving of love, respect, and kindness, and this understanding positively impacts not only our relationship but also our broader sense of self in the world.
Couples who work together and support one another create a unique environment for mutual growth. They become catalysts for each other’s personal development. Through encouragement, constructive feedback, and shared goals, they inspire one another to become better versions of themselves. This continuous process of self-improvement contributes to the longevity and resilience of the relationship.
Effective Couples Work
When couples choose to collaborate and support each other in their journey of love, they embark on a path of personal and relational growth. Love’s transformative power lies not only in the affection shared but also in its ability to nurture self-love, self-care, self-worth, and mutual development. By working together, couples not only stay together but also create a harmonious and empowering space for each other’s individual flourishing. It is in this synergy of love and support that the magic of enduring relationships truly unfolds.
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Teena Evert – Effective & Impactful Couples Therapy Colorado
“I vow to take you on as my burden.”
– Dr. Stan Tatkin
Why People Turn to Couples Therapy
Relationships can be tricky. Many folks believe they get tough due to common issues about money, sex, kids, work, or picking the wrong partner. But the real challenge is truly understanding each other. We wish relationships were simple, but we bring our past, our pains, and our complicated, clever brains into them.
In the beginning, we fall in love, feeling like we’re on cloud nine⎯ thanks to chemicals like dopamine (which makes us want more), noradrenaline (for focus), testosterone (for desire), and a drop in serotonin (which makes us obsess). We get kind of addicted to each other and spend tons of time together. Our brains get used to each other, and we assume we know everything. We stop paying attention, and arguments become common.
Then the real work begins.
Every couple argues; that’s not the issue. Fights can happen but are survivable. What can harm a relationship is when it feels threatened. When we’re stressed, our communication breaks down, and our thoughts and perceptions get mixed up by our emotions. We believe our own version of the truth.
Note: If you’re in an abusive relationship, it’s vital to leave. I am talking about day-to-day threats and when we react under stress to our partner and we become a threat to our partner.
You carry around a mini lab in your brain. No matter your personality, past relationships, or trauma, we all can make mistakes in how we communicate, remember things, and see the world.
Being in a committed relationship means having each other’s backs, like being in a team and protecting each other from the world’s dangers. It’s not just about getting your way. It’s about making each other feel safe, secure, and loved.
Sadly, many relationships often end too soon because people can’t accept the concept that our major job is to protect each other and make each other feel safe and secure.
The truth is the world has always been a dangerous place, every day can feel a bit scary, so if we don’t have each other’s backs who will?
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