Welcome to the Confident Careerist Podcast for professionals just like you who place a high value on their career development and strive for success while also seeking work-life balance.
My name is Teena Evert and I am delighted to be your host. I’m a careerist myself and career development, leadership, and life coach. I love what I do and I hope that you enjoy the creation of this podcast and allow it to be an important tool in your toolbox that will help you to accelerate your success, gain greater confidence and happiness in your work-life.
Lost Your Mojo at Work?
Today, I am talking about how you can energize your work life! Particularly if you are feeling a lack of motivation, boredom with your work tasks, or questioning whether there is something better out there for you!
I work with a lot of people who seem to have lost their mojo at work. For many reasons, their workday is more draining than energizing and despite their efforts, they have not been successful at changing this. They think perhaps changing jobs is the answer. Well, it might be, but it also might not be.
It’s best to look at your situation from different angles. Perhaps you can’t see the forest for the trees. You are so involved in the details of what you think the problem is that you can’t look at the situation as a whole and find a viable solution.
Attitude and mindset
Now if you want to energize your work life, but you really hate going to work every day…this will require a major attitude adjustment and a significant mindset shift.
If you’re stuck in a rut feeling like you’re constantly having crappy things happen to you day-in-and-day-out, with no control over what is happening to you, then you’re probably burying yourself in negativity. You’ve got to start climbing your way out of this deep dark well by introducing positive things into your life and take back control of fueling your spirit, your power, and your purpose – more on this later.
If you’re bored at work from the repetition and lack of stimulation or you’re feeling resentful because your day revolves around when or if everyone else needs something from you – Then I bet you are tired from giving more to others then to yourself. Sound familiar?
I get it, I’ve been there!
I have been in all of these situations, more than once, and from my own struggles, I want to share some of my strategies and tips to help you feel more energized at work, regardless of where you are at along your career path.
First and foremost, is to learn how to claim the lead in your life, by regaining control when you feel like you have lost it, by recharging your energy when it’s been depleted, by reviving your spirit when you feel it has nearly shriveled up and died, and restoring your confidence when it’s been eroded by giving away your power.
When we feel we have lost a sense of control in our lives we get bogged down by our responsibilities in life to the point where we just can’t seem to get back on top of it – at this point, it’s easy to slip into negativity and have a pretty poor outlook on our future.
So now when you have a negative attitude and you feel bogged down how do get back on top of things and feel positive again? First, you have to take a pause long enough to reflect on what you’ve been doing that’s not working.
Do you know how many positives you need for every negative in order to turn it around? Or in other words how many positives it takes to cancel a negative?
The optimal ratio is 5 positives for every 1 negative. Having a positive perspective is something that careerists can work on every day. Here are 3 ways you can start to regain control, get back on top of your responsibilities, and work on seeing things in a more positive way at work.
- Let your co-workers and colleagues influence you. When you have irresolvable problems in the workplace, you can either hold resentment against others or accept what cannot change. When you accept others’ different points-of-view and perspectives, you also accept their influence when discussing problems.
- Increase your sense of appreciation for others at work. A simple way to do this is to let your co-workers and colleagues know of at least one thing each day that you appreciate about them or about something they did. What are they adding to your life at work?
- Create an emotional connection by letting others know you value their presence and what they have to say. An emotional connection starts by making eye contact, smiling, and responding with validation.
When you accept influence, increase your sense of appreciation and emotionally connect with others on a regular daily basis, it helps you have a positive attitude and therefore boosts your energy at work. When this happens you might feel more of a desire to collaborate with others to find solutions to pressing issues that have been impacting your productivity.
Make a shift
Another key strategy to regain control and energize your work life is shifting your mindset.
Do you often try new things and push yourself into uncharted territory in your development? Or do you tend to stick with what you know?
How you answer these questions will reveal your mindset.
Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck was curious why some people, in life, thrive while others flounder. She studied the underpinnings of success and achievement for over four decades. Her major contribution is the distinction between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.
Let’s explore what these mindsets really mean, why they are important and how you can change your mindset.
In a fixed mindset, individuals believe they are either born with talent or they’re not. They’re either naturally good at something, or they’re not. They view intelligence as a fixed trait. They believe inborn talent determines success.
Individuals with a growth mindset believe talent comes through effort. They believe anyone can be good at anything; that their abilities can be developed through dedication, perseverance, and the right strategy.
The bottom line is that individuals with a fixed mindset seek to validate themselves. Individuals with a growth mindset focus on developing themselves. Although this distinction may seem simple, the implications are enormous.
Dangers of a fixed mindset
Individuals who adopt a fixed mindset rarely excel at anything. Because they believe their intelligence and abilities are what they are, they invest their energy in looking smart instead of learning and developing.
In a fixed mindset, if you try something you’ve never done before, say skiing, you’ll likely give up after falling a few times. This “failure” will feel humiliating and you’ll probably avoid skiing for the rest of your life. You’ll make an excuse like, “Skiing just isn’t my thing.”
With a fixed mindset, you avoid new challenges like the plague because you’re afraid of being judged. As such, when obstacles arise, you tend to give up quickly because you feel that putting forth effort is a waste of time – and you secretly feel threatened and envious of the success of others. Ultimately, in a fixed mindset, you don’t have a chance to develop your potential.
It’s incredibly harmful to hold a fixed mindset, to believe intelligence and talent are static. Yet, most of us hold a fixed mindset in multiple areas of our lives.
Power of a growth mindset
In a growth mindset, you believe you can develop any ability through dedication and hard work. Because of this belief, you have a desire to learn. This enables you to embrace challenges and persevere when setbacks invariably arise during the learning process.
With a growth mindset, you view effort as an essential ingredient on the path to mastery. You don’t shy away from effort; you embrace it. And when you see others succeeding on their path to mastery, you find inspiration and lessons to learn for your own development. A growth mindset leads you into an upward spiral of continuing development, reaching ever-higher levels of personal mastery and achievement.
These growth-minded individuals have more peak experiences, improved relationships, and greater productivity in their field.
You can also have a mixed mindset, a combination of the two, although Dweck says people tend to lean toward one or the other. The good news is that you have a choice. “Mindsets are just beliefs,” Dweck explains. “They’re powerful beliefs, but they’re just something in your mind, and you can change your mind.”
Changing your mind and choosing your mindset can have a BIG impact on how energized you feel at work today as well as along your future career path.
Create Clear Emotional Boundaries
Another important strategy for energizing your work life is to learn how to stop one of the most common energy leaks – a lack of clear emotional boundaries.
When we allow ourselves to become drained physically, emotionally, and energetically we often find ourselves also struggling with various levels of anxiety and depression. One of the things that contribute to these symptoms being mild, moderate, or high is the health of our emotional boundaries.
When we have emotional boundaries we can stay clearly centered on our own feelings and take care of them without taking on other people’s feelings resulting in emotional overwhelm.
We get emotionally overwhelmed because people around us are feeling strong emotions that they aren’t taking care of – so lacking clear boundaries – we can unconsciously take these emotions on. You might not be aware that this is happening, but you certainly are aware of how uncomfortable the impact is on you.
Once you understand the dynamic that is happening you can take the next step which is to shift the dynamic in order to recharge your energy reserves and prevent constant depleting.
3 Tips to help you develop clear emotional boundaries
- Learn to pull your energy field closer to your body. We all have an energy field that extends beyond us and if it is out too far we are able to feel what others are feeling more intensely. By pulling this in closer to your body, by actually visualizing it coming in closer, you can stay centered in your own body and not take on others’ emotions.
- Learn to make distinctions between your natural empathy versus care-taking energy, which is when we take on others’ emotions and run them through our own body. You can say to yourself something like, “I care about this person and I feel empathy for their feelings, but I don’t need to run those feelings through my own body.” Then you can visualize handing these feelings back to the other person
- Get clear that it is OK for others to be in a different emotional state than you. For example, if you are happy and the other person you are with is sad—it is OK for you to stay happy and extend compassion to the person for their sad feelings. It is OK for you to be happy and for them to be sad. This is an emotional boundary. You can affirm to yourself: “We can be in different emotional states and still be very connected.”
Once you begin to practice establishing your own emotional boundaries, it will be much easier to take care of your own issues and more quickly recover from feeling physically drained anxious, or depressed at work.
Connect to your resources
If you have been feeling a lack of motivation and purpose in your life, then this strategy will be sure to revive your Spirit. Accessing your resources will bring you back to feeling grounded and nourished in the present time.
Your resources are the things that give you strength and nourishment. One of the most frequent topics of conversation that I have had with clients both, as a mental health professional and life and career coach has been on the topic of resources.
A resource in this context is anything that supports, stabilizes, and strengthens you from the inside out. We have all experienced difficult times in our life. Ask yourself, “Given that I’ve been through a lot, what gave me the strength to come through or to go on?” “What gives me inner strength in life? What do I enjoy the most in life?
By recognizing what has worked or what is working well in your life is a resource. A resource is any positive memory, person, place, action, or personal capacity that creates a soothing feeling in your body. You can actively use these resources to help reduce chronic and acute stress and therefore stimulate a state of relaxation and well-being. It is important to focus on what is healthy in you.
By identifying what allows you to unwind, relax and enjoy moments in life, worry-free will help you stay energized in both your personal and professional life.
Own your power
The last strategy I’ll share with you today has to do with giving yourself permission to be powerful. This is certainly NOT about abusing your power for personal gain, this is about being comfortable and confident in your skin by knowing your values, embracing your worth, and speaking your truth.
Take inspired action towards what you want by being proactive, initiating change – not just standing by waiting for life to give you what you want. You must give yourself permission to be in your power and be confident in going after what you want. This will result in feeling highly energized and connected to purpose as well as your professional identity.
I covered a lot in this episode…let me recap the strategies that will help you ENERGIZE your work life, regardless of how depleted you are feeling.
First claim the lead in your life by adjusting your attitude and following the 3 ways you can work on seeing things in a more positive way at work.
Next, regain control by shifting your mindset, meaning do whatever it takes to develop a growth mindset, rather than stay in a fixed mindset. This is essential for your development and ability to move forward with ease and delight.
Create clear emotional boundaries to plug the most common energy leak. Connect to your resources for nourishment and strength – and give yourself permission to restore your confidence by owning your power.
If you would like additional support to help implement any of these strategies so that you can improve your life, your energy, and your career development, then I invite you to schedule a Complimentary Career Consultation.
Until next time…