EP54: THE #1 THING THAT STOPS AMBITIOUS WOMEN FROM SUCCESS
Hey There, thanks for tuning in. This is your host Teena Evert Founder and CEO of CLAIM THE LEAD and today I want to talk about the C-word, but before I do I want to share a personal experience with you.
August has been a HOT month where I live in Denver, Colorado, and this is the time of year when I like to head up into the mountains where it’s a bit cooler.
Earlier in the month, I went on a 4-day bike tour that consisted of cycling just over 200 miles. We climbed up and over a few mountain passes, down and around winding river roads, and through high desert ranches all under the bright, bright sun and sometimes into a fierce headwind .
I love riding my bike, and I train for events like this because, as you can imagine, a certain amount of endurance, strength, power, and focus – not to mention determination and a positive mindset, is required.
Proper training and preparation are also essential to be successful in your career. Like riding my bike, the training and practice give the foundational skills I need to engage in the activity and enjoy the ride. Related to work, it’s the foundational skills to perform your job well. Both take time to develop and a willingness to do so.
MENTAL STRENGTH AND STAMINA
Mental strength and stamina are critical when climbing up steep mountain passes. When I first started cycling many years ago, I had a sprinter mentality, and I would burn up all my energy before reaching the summit. I was really hard on myself and told myself I must not be good at this and almost gave it up.
Instead, I sought out more skilled people than I was at the time so that I could learn a smarter way to advance up the hill and not burn myself out before reaching the top. Today, I love to climb and challenge myself often to go farther, faster, and stronger each year.
Mental strength and stamina also help you with your job performance. Keeping a clear head and staying focused under pressure when there is external stress like hard deadlines, difficult colleagues, or a stormy work environment. Being able to shift your mindset and seek solutions to move beyond obstacles is a smart way to get ahead on a bike ride and in your career.
What are the foundational skills you need to master to feel competent and confident in your career?
In my personal and professional experience, the number one thing that has held me back the most is a lack of confidence. That C-word that many of us struggle with, especially when we are just learning something new.
You have to be willing and able to go through a period where you don’t feel very confident until you build competence in your skills and belief in your ability to perform at a higher level.
Failing forward is part of the process towards reaching greater heights. I think that confidence is an embodied feeling that is focused, competent, clear, and determined.
What does confidence mean to you?
I feel a lack of confidence when I’m not focused or unsure of my ability to succeed and ambivalent about my determination to try.
Can you be too confident?
Many of us think that means we’re arrogant. The definition of confidence in the Merriam-Webster dictionary as, “a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances.” Whereas the definition of arrogance is “an attitude of superiority.”
To have confidence is to be in your power, where arrogance is about having power over others.
What does it mean to you to be a confident careerist?
One definition of a careerist is someone who thinks that their career is more important than anything else.
Do you agree?
If you lacked confidence in your career or hated your job, how would this impact other areas of your life?
My definition of a confident careerist is career-minded, focused on what they want, competent in their craft, evident in their intentions, and determined to make a positive difference in the lives of others and the world.
I’ll leave you with a few questions to reflect on…
When do you feel the most confidence at work?
What lights you up the most about your career?
Please send an email to email@example.com I’d love to hear your reflections and to have an opportunity to connect with you.
Until next time, BE CONFIDENT!