7 Steps to Help You With Life and Career Transitions
I experienced transitions in my life and career that have always required a “holding on” and a “letting go.” Like a child receiving presents on their birthday, you can’t add new things when their arms are already full!
It’s a natural part of the cycle of life that needs to occur before you can embrace something new.
To successfully make it through meaningful life and career transitions, I had to consciously get clear and engage in what I wanted to hold on to and what I needed to let go of to make the shift. It’s a process that’s not always easy to move through alone. Therefore, I recommend working with a career coach specializing in helping you have greater personal fulfillment and life satisfaction.
You can get in your way and block your ability to move forward if:
- You’re too busy and always rushing around throughout your day.
- You’ve lost track of your friends, and you don’t do things just for fun anymore.
- You’ve lost track of your goals and never feel like there’s enough time to catch up.
Can you relate?
Many people come to me for coaching because they want to find ways to make their life more satisfying and fulfilling.
They want to:
- Feel a sense of aliveness in their life.
- Get out of the trance that they’ve fallen into from the high levels of stimulation in our modern society – that is beginning to make them feel robotic.
One of the issues of feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled is that people drive their lives with habitual choices and coping methods developed as young children and have remained unchanged.
When coping habits outlive their usefulness and become outdated, they turn to a professional like myself, seeking help to reshape and update their life. I coach my clients on developing new habits of thinking and behaving that lead to a personal breakthrough.
Step 1: Clarify
The first step is to clarify how your habitual thinking and coping habits are your limitations to moving beyond your current life choices. When I coach my clients, we often focus on life purpose and life design work. As you become conscious of your unconscious behaviors, your experience shifts, and usually, a personal breakthrough occurs. As a result, you begin to live your life more purposefully – meaning new good habits, committed daily practices, and a new way of being.
Designing a purposeful life and career gets you out of being a creature of habit where you keep falling into a familiar sort of autopilot stupor. Learn to create positive habits, and they will naturally replace unhealthy or unwanted behaviors.
Step 2: Examine
An essential coaching strategy is to examine your everyday life habits to determine which are habitual and the assumptions that underpin them. I work directly with my clients to explore cognitively and emotionally ways to change outdated habits and create more purposeful behavior in line with their desired lives.
Step 3: Identify
The most vital route to authentic happiness is to use your signature strengths in the service of something greater than yourself. Your strengths can be your best motivators, and I love helping my clients identify what they are. I use formal and informal assessments to find their signature strengths and then coach them to best leverage them to bring greater personal fulfillment and life satisfaction.
Step 4: Discover
The truth is, most of us did not grow up thinking we could design a life. Maybe a garden or a sandbox, but not your life. I help my clients become the interior designers of their lives integrally – body, mind, and spirit. Through our work, they realize they can make better choices about their lives. They can consciously design a way of living that will bring them deep fulfillment – a feeling of satisfaction with achieving one’s desires. I help my clients discover what they desire and want to bring into actuality, to completion.
Fulfillment is not the end goal – it’s about experiencing fulfillment at the moment. Life will always bring new challenges and learning opportunities.
Step 5: Choose
I want you to learn that in being more purposeful – in consciously choosing and designing your experience – you have opportunities to experience moments of fulfillment more frequently. I want you to know that in being more purposeful – in consciously choosing and designing your experience – you have opportunities to experience moments of fulfillment more frequently.
Let’s be honest with ourselves. We all want more of whatever feels fulfilling. Living purposefully and living with design allows people to be more conscious of their choices, actions, and mindset.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
I think it takes tremendous courage to create the life of your dreams.
L. J. Cardinal Suenens said, “Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.”
There is a high cost of not living the life of our dreams, of not leading a fulfilling life – it not only takes courage it requires being honest with yourself to explore a new way of being.
Step 6: Remember
Many of us need the reminder that WE create our own lives – through our intentions, beliefs, courage, and ability to link our desires with our actions. The real art of life is in balance, meaning living in the present with an ability to focus on the future.
On the one hand, life can feel like it’s working in our favor when we are happy, everything seems normal, whatever we are doing is succeeding, our routine is working, and we are comfortable. On the other hand, life can feel like everything is falling apart when we experience a loss, where routine happiness falls apart. A variety of events start to signal change, and the challenge is to let go of the routine that worked so well.
Step 7: Heal
When we experience loss in our lives, we want to return to our previous happiness as quickly as possible and regain our equilibrium. The healing and growth process requires one to experience the suffering and allow ourselves to move through the feelings of loss fully. Unfortunately, we can not avoid this process and still hope to achieve our goal. We can’t go over, under, or around this life transition – we must go through it with all the hard work of planning, implementing, and revising that it entails.
It’s often an unpleasant process that involves actual suffering: tension, stress, anxiety, worry, frustration, anger, conflict, and sadness. It is only through grief – fully experiencing our pain – that hope arises. The good news is that hope begins to emerge when our plans start to work.
We start to notice progress and begin to feel competent. We hold a vision of a return to happiness and normality. Naturally, the new normal will be different from the old. When the change process is effective, the elements of our life come together in a new configuration, and we find happiness in a new state of equilibrium.
Remember that happiness is rarely a permanent state of being.
Life and career Transitions are certain
Changes will reliably come as we move through life. As a consequence of change, which is part of the natural cycle of life, we repeatedly experience the emotions of change. With the loss, we can share feelings of anxiety, apprehension, and worry. We can feel sad, angry, irritated, and frustrated. Grieving needs to be done. Along with the experience of suffering through change, we may experience stress, depression, burnout, helplessness, and even hopelessness.
Eventually, hope brings renewed energy, optimism, and enthusiasm. Our happiness brings a sense of satisfaction and contentment. Trying to grip the state of happiness to stay in it forever is not realistic. Change is a natural part of our lives. It brings growth and all the emotions associated with change.
Coaching offers you the opportunity to put your hands on the wheel of your life and turn it at a speed that returns you more quickly to happiness when your life has gone off course.
I help you discover your strengths to manage your life through critical transitions and help you learn to navigate these times as smoothly as possible, emerging more resilient and less drained.
When we are experiencing loss, we have to share it to move through it, and coaching gives you the tools to design your life in the spirit of hope so that authentic happiness occurs more quickly, more efficiently, and more frequently.
If you are suffering greatly and in pain, coaching can assist you in moving through the pain as elegantly as possible.
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