Where real change begins
The Relationship Roadmap
A guided process to see how you’re really built together, test a new way of relating in real time, and leave with a clear plan for what’s next.
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Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners
Every couple starts here
Most couples therapy begins the same way: a fifty-minute intake, a little history, a slow ramp-up. The Relationship Roadmap is different — it’s where the real work starts.
This is where you begin unlearning the patterns that keep pulling you back into the same fight, and start practicing something different — together, in real time, with support. You’ll see how each of you is actually built, how you fit together, and what’s really driving the pattern you keep landing in. Not in theory. In the room, as it happens.
This isn’t a screening session — it’s the real work, with the same depth and focus as a half-day intensive. By the end, you’ll have a clear picture of what’s going on between you and a specific plan for what comes next. That’s not a decision I ask you to make from the outside.
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Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners
Where the Roadmap leads
Free Call
Thirty minutes by video, with both of you. Nothing is booked and nothing is owed.
The Relationship Roadmap
A guided process to see how you're really built together, and leave with a clear plan for what's next.
Couples Therapy
Two-hour sessions, weekly or every other week.
The Second Half Intensive
Two days, or longer when more time is needed.
Which path fits is decided together at your Roadmap — and completing it does not commit you to either.
Inside the process
- We start with how each of you is built — your history, your nervous system, what you each bring into the relationship
- We look at how you fit together — where you complement each other, and where you collide
- We slow down and work with what’s actually happening between you — the patterns that matter live in the nervous system, not in the analysis
- We find what’s really driving the conflict — underneath the argument you keep having
What you leave with
- A clear, shared picture of how you’re built and what’s driving the pattern — not a diagnosis, a map
- A specific plan for what comes next — ongoing therapy or an intensive, with honest expectations about what change will take
- A shared language for talking about your relationship — one that doesn’t put either of you at fault
- A written roadmap that captures all of it, so you have something to return to as you do the work
Where the Relationship Roadmap Can Lead
After the Relationship Roadmap, we’ll have a clearer sense of what kind of support fits your relationship now: a focused marriage intensive, steady ongoing couples therapy, or another next step if something different is needed.
Focused, Immersive Support
The Second Half Intensive
Private, focused two-day or custom intensive support for couples at a turning point.
Often the right fit when your relationship feels urgent or deeply stuck, when you’re repairing after betrayal, or when you want sustained time to work without stopping and restarting.
Steady, Ongoing Support
Couples Therapy
Two-hour sessions, weekly or every other week, in person in Boulder or online.
Often the right fit when you want ongoing support, space between sessions to practice, and a slower rhythm for new ways of relating to take hold.
How I work
The work is experiential and psychobiologically-based. We work with what happens between you in real time rather than discussing it from a distance — trained in PACT® and Transformative Couples Therapy®, with attachment and trauma-informed methods underneath. The aim is secure functioning: becoming a team that reliably protects one another.
Practical details
Before anything, free call
Thirty minutes by video, with both of you. We’ll talk about what’s bringing you here now, what you’ve already tried, and what you want to be different. Nothing is booked and nothing is owed — by the end you’ll know whether we’re a fit, and I’ll tell you honestly if we’re not.
Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners