Where real change begins
The Relationship Roadmap
A guided process to see how you’re really built together, test a new way of relating in real time, and leave with a clear plan for what’s next.
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Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners
Every couple starts here
Most couples therapy begins the same way: a fifty-minute intake, a little history, a slow ramp-up. The Relationship Roadmap is different — it’s where the real work starts.
This is where you begin unlearning the patterns that keep pulling you back into the same fight, and start practicing something different — together, in real time, with support. You’ll see how each of you is actually built, how you fit together, and what’s really driving the pattern you keep landing in. Not in theory. In the room, as it happens.
This isn’t a screening session — it’s the real work, with the same depth and focus as everything that follows. By the end, you’ll have a clear picture of what’s going on between you and a clear recommendation for what comes next. That’s not a decision I ask you to make from the outside.
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Inside the process
- We start with how each of you is built — your history, your nervous system, what you each bring into the relationship
- We look at how you fit together — where you complement each other, and where you collide
- We slow down and work with what’s actually happening between you — the patterns that matter live in the nervous system, not in the analysis
- We find what’s really driving the conflict — underneath the argument you keep having
What you leave with
- A clear, shared picture of how you’re built and what’s driving the pattern — not a diagnosis, a map
- A shared language for talking about your relationship — one that doesn’t put either of you at fault
- A one-page relationship summary — which we go through together at the start of your next session — what I see, and what the work needs to be, in what order.
- A clear recommendation for what comes next — ongoing couples therapy or The Second Half Intensive, with honest expectations about what change will take. I recommend; you decide.
Where the Relationship Roadmap Can Lead
Your Roadmap ends with my recommendation for the support that fits your relationship now — ongoing couples therapy, the usual next step, or The Second Half Intensive. I recommend; you decide.
Steady, Ongoing Support
Couples Therapy
Two-hour sessions, weekly or every other week, in person in Boulder or online.
Often the right fit when you want ongoing support, space between sessions to practice, and a slower rhythm for new ways of relating to take hold.
Focused, Immersive Support
The Second Half Intensive
Concentrated support: two or three consecutive days, four hours each day, in person in Boulder, with a follow-up session and recommended continuing care.
Can be a good fit when your relationship feels urgent or deeply stuck, or when you’re repairing after a betrayal and want concentrated time to begin that work.
How I work
The work is experiential and psychobiologically-based. We work with what happens between you in real time rather than discussing it from a distance — trained in PACT® and Transformative Couples Therapy®, with attachment and trauma-informed methods underneath. The aim is secure functioning: becoming a team that reliably protects one another.
Practical details
Before anything, free call
Thirty minutes by video, with both of you. We’ll talk about what’s bringing you here now, what you’ve already tried, and what you want to be different. Nothing is booked and nothing is owed — by the end you’ll know whether we’re a fit, and I’ll tell you honestly if we’re not.
Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners