Getting Started
Where can we meet with you?
I see couples in person at my private office in Boulder, Colorado, and through telehealth.
In person:
767 Pearl Street, Suite 220
Boulder, CO 80302
Online: Telehealth throughout Colorado.
What are your hours?
Sessions by appointment, Tuesday–Friday. Please begin with a consultation.
How do we get started?
The best first step is to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.
This gives us a chance to talk about what is bringing you in, answer your questions, and see whether we’re a good fit to work together. From there, every couple begins with a Relationship Roadmap.
What is a free consultation?
The consultation is a free 30-minute video call for both partners.
It is not a therapy session. It is a real conversation where you can share what has been happening in your relationship, ask questions, and get a sense of how I work.
I will also ask a few questions to better understand your situation and help determine whether this is the right fit. If I believe another kind of support would serve you better, I will tell you honestly.
How should we prepare for the consultation?
You do not need to prepare anything formal.
It may help to briefly consider:
- What has been most difficult in your relationship recently?
- What have you already tried?
- What would you most like to see change?
- What would a successful outcome look like for each of you?
There are no right or wrong answers. The consultation is simply a starting place.
The Relationship Roadmap
What is the Relationship Roadmap?
It’s the first session for every couple I work with: three hours together, followed by a written relationship assessment and roadmap sent to you within 7–10 days.
In it we look at how each of you is built, how you fit together, where things reliably collide, and what’s actually driving the pattern underneath any particular argument. You leave with a clear picture and a plan — and my recommendation about which path fits.
Do we have to do the Roadmap? Can't we just start regular sessions?
The Roadmap is the required first session for every couple.
It’s how I know what we’re treating before we begin, and it’s what makes the sessions that follow worth your time and money. Starting without it means spending your first two months paying me to work out what one focused session would have told us.
We've done couples therapy before. Do we still need it?
Especially then.
Most couples who come to me have done therapy that helped somewhat and didn’t hold. Understanding why is usually the most useful part of the Roadmap.
Can we do the Roadmap online?
Yes. Many couples do. If you’re within reach of Boulder I prefer in person for this first session, but online works well.
What relationship books do you recommend?
I often recommend books by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, the founder of PACT® — the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy.
His work helps couples better understand attachment, the nervous system, conflict, and what it means to build a secure-functioning relationship.
A few recommended titles include:
- Wired for Love
- In Each Other’s Care
- We Do
- Your Brain on Love
- Relationship RX
If we work together, I may recommend a specific book or audiobook based on what would best support your relationship.
Couples Therapy
With whom do you work?
I work exclusively with couples, with a particular focus on midlife partners navigating the challenges and transitions that often emerge in long-term relationships.
Many of the couples I work with have built full lives together, but find themselves struggling with emotional distance, recurring conflict, betrayal, uncertainty, or a growing sense that they have lost each other somewhere along the way.
I work with couples who are ready to look honestly at the patterns between them and invest time, attention, and care into creating something more secure and connected.
What can we expect in couples therapy?
Couples therapy is not about deciding who is right, who is wrong, or who is to blame.
In our work together, we focus on the relationship itself: the patterns that emerge between you during stress, conflict, distance, misunderstanding, or hurt. As those patterns become clearer, we can begin creating new ways of responding that build more trust, emotional safety, and connection.
How are couples therapy sessions structured?
Because meaningful couples work takes time, sessions are longer than traditional therapy appointments.
First session — the Relationship Roadmap: 3 hours An extended session covering your relationship history, current challenges, strengths, and recurring patterns, followed by a written assessment and roadmap sent to you within 7–10 days. Every couple begins here.
Ongoing sessions: 2 hours Longer sessions allow us to move beyond surface-level conversations and work with what happens between you in real time.
Why are couples sessions longer?
Fifty-minute sessions are often not enough time for deeper couples work.
It takes time to understand the patterns driving conflict or disconnection, work with what emerges between you, and help both partners return to a more grounded place before the session ends.
Longer sessions create more space for meaningful movement, repair, and integration.
Do you recommend individual therapy alongside couples therapy?
Sometimes, yes.
There are moments in couples work when something surfaces that may need more individual attention than a shared session can hold. If I believe individual therapy would support the work, I will tell you directly.
That said, it is not always necessary. Many couples do meaningful work together without individual therapy running alongside it.
Marriage Intensives
How is a Marriage Intensive different from weekly couples therapy?
A Marriage Intensive gives us concentrated time to focus deeply on your relationship over two consecutive days.
Instead of stopping just as important material begins to emerge, we have time to understand the patterns keeping you stuck, work with them in real time, and create a clearer roadmap for moving forward.
Do we need to be in crisis to choose an intensive?
No.
Some couples choose a Marriage Intensive because they are in crisis or facing a significant rupture. Others choose it because they want meaningful change sooner and do not want to spread the work across many months.
You may feel disconnected, uncertain, or tired of repeating the same patterns without being in an immediate crisis.
What if we have tried couples therapy before?
Many couples who choose an intensive have tried couples therapy before.
Sometimes previous therapy helped create insight, but did not lead to the kind of lasting change the couple hoped for. The intensive format allows us to work more deeply and directly with the patterns that are still happening between you.
Is the intensive private?
Yes.
Each Marriage Intensive is private, personalized, and focused entirely on your relationship. We work together in a confidential setting without a group format.
What happens after the intensive?
Approximately one week after the intensive, we meet for a two-hour follow-up session.
This gives us time to reinforce what shifted, address what has come up since the intensive, and refine your roadmap for continuing the work in daily life.
How do we know whether couples therapy or a Marriage Intensive is right for us?
You do not need to know before reaching out — that’s what the Relationship Roadmap is for.
At the end of that first three-hour session, I’ll tell you which of the two I recommend and why. It isn’t a decision I ask you to make from the outside, and it isn’t one I can make well before I’ve seen how the two of you actually work together.
Investment & Policies
What does it cost to work with you?
Relationship Roadmap — $1,500. The required first session for every couple: three hours, plus a written assessment and roadmap sent within 7–10 days.
Ongoing couples therapy — $620 per session. Two hours, weekly or every other week.
Marriage Intensive — $7,000. Two five-hour days plus a two-hour follow-up. Additional days are $3,500 each, agreed in advance.
Payment is due in advance to reserve your time. This is a private-pay practice; I don’t bill insurance.
Why are your rates higher than some other couples therapists?
Because this is specialized couples work with longer sessions, advanced training, and a depth-oriented approach.
Couples therapy requires a different skill set than individual therapy. I have spent years training specifically in couples therapy, attachment, trauma-informed care, experiential approaches, and nervous system-informed work so I can help couples address the patterns that keep them stuck.
The format is also different. Sessions are two to three hours, not fifty minutes.
When you invest in this work, you are investing in focused, specialized support for one of the most important relationships in your life.
Do you accept insurance?
No. This is a private-pay practice.
I do not bill insurance or provide superbills for couples work. Insurance typically requires identifying one partner as the patient and assigning a diagnosis. In couples therapy, I view the relationship as the client, not one partner as the problem.
This allows us to keep the focus where it belongs: on the patterns, dynamics, and healing needed between you.
Why do you require payment in advance?
Payment in advance reserves your time and supports a clear commitment to the work.
Couples therapy asks for time, attention, honesty, and investment from both partners. Taking care of payment ahead of time allows us to begin the session focused on the relationship, not logistics.
What is your cancellation policy?
For the Relationship Roadmap, cancellations or reschedules with seven or more days’ notice can be moved once or refunded in full. Inside seven days, the fee is non-refundable, because preparation begins well before we meet.
For ongoing sessions, cancellations with at least 72 hours’ notice receive a credit to use within 30 days. Inside 72 hours, the full session fee applies.
Marriage Intensives follow separate terms, set out in the Marriage Intensive Agreement.
Full terms are in the Fee Schedule & Payment Agreement you’ll receive before we begin.
What if cost is a concern?
It is completely appropriate to weigh this carefully, which is why the fees are listed above rather than saved for a conversation.
If the investment isn’t workable right now, tell me during the consultation. I would rather help you find the right support elsewhere than have you begin something and have to stop partway through.
My Approach
What is your experience as a therapist?
For nearly two decades, I’ve worked exclusively with couples.
My path into this work has always been shaped by an interest in how people heal, change, and relate. Before becoming a couples therapist, my background included work in biology, body-based healing, therapeutic yoga, and rehabilitation. Those experiences still influence how I understand relationships today: not just as conversations, but as emotional, physical, and relational systems.
In my work with couples, I help partners understand and change the patterns that create conflict, distance, mistrust, and disconnection.
What do you care about most when working with couples?
I care about meaningful change.
That means I am not only paying attention to whether a session feels productive in the moment, but whether something is actually shifting between you over time.
I work to understand what is happening beneath the surface, stay curious when things get complicated, and tell you directly what I am seeing when it may help the work move forward.
My goal is to help couples create something real: a relationship that feels safer, more honest, more connected, and more secure.
What is your education and training?
I hold a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology and am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Colorado.
My advanced training includes PACT® — the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy, TCT® — Transformative Couples Therapy, AEDP®, attachment-based approaches, trauma-informed work, somatic approaches, sex and intimacy training, and HeartMath®.
What matters most is how this training comes together in the room. My approach helps couples work not only with insight and communication, but with the deeper emotional, attachment, and nervous system patterns that shape how partners respond to each other under stress.
What are your own personal experiences with therapy?
I have done my own deeper work, and I believe that matters.
I know what it is like to look honestly at old patterns, understand where they came from, and practice choosing something different. That does not make my story the focus of your therapy, but it does shape how I sit with couples who are doing courageous and difficult work.
I do not ask couples to go anywhere I have not been willing to go myself.
Still Have Questions?
The best way to know whether this work is the right fit is to begin with a conversation.
During a free consultation, we can talk about what is bringing you in and answer your questions. From there, every couple begins with a Relationship Roadmap — and that’s where we determine the right next step.