Where Real Change Takes Hold

The Second Half Intensive

A private, in-person intensive for midlife couples at a turning point — ready to repair what’s been strained and build a clearer path forward, together.

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Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners

Is this you?

Ongoing couples therapy is the usual next step after the Roadmap, and it helps many couples. But if you’re caught in the same painful cycle, recovering from a break in trust, or standing at a real crossroads, concentrated time can help. The Second Half Intensive gives you two or three consecutive days, four hours each day, to work with what’s actually keeping you stuck — long enough for something to shift.

This may be the right fit if:

• You feel more like roommates than partners
• You’ve tried therapy before and didn’t get the progress you hoped for
• You want dedicated time to understand what’s happening and leave with a real plan

You don’t have to be in crisis to choose an intensive. Many couples come because they’re ready to stop drifting and move forward with intention.

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Who this isn’t the right fit for

The Second Half Intensive requires honesty and real participation from both of you. It’s not the right fit if:

• One partner is only attending to appease the other
• There’s an affair that hasn’t been disclosed, or one that’s ongoing and being minimized
• There’s domestic violence or coercive control
• Substance use would interfere with the work
• Either partner is experiencing acute psychiatric instability or active suicidality
• You want a referee to decide who’s right, or quick advice without real participation from both of you
• You’re in the first weeks after discovering an affair — that period needs steadier, more frequent support before intensive work.

If any of these are part of the picture, a different kind of support needs to come first.

How it begins

Every couple starts with the Relationship Roadmap — a guided process to understand how you’re both built and what’s really driving the pattern. It ends with my recommendation for what comes next, and a one-page written summary we review together at your next session.

Three turning points

Most couples come to an Intensive from one of these places:

Stuck in the same pattern — For couples who still care about each other but keep landing in the same argument, distance, or disconnection. Protected time to slow the pattern down and build a clearer way forward.

Repairing deeper hurt — For betrayal, long-standing resentment, or years of accumulated disconnection. Room to work through the layers of hurt, trust, and accountability with care.

Facing a new chapter — For couples facing a major transition — empty nest, retirement, relocation — who want to decide, deliberately, who they’re becoming together next.

The Intensive runs two or three consecutive days, four hours each day. I recommend the length at your Roadmap, and it’s set before the Intensive begins — never extended in the middle of the work.

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What the days look like

Each day is four hours in my Boulder office, with a break for lunch — and you’re my only clients those days. The work is guided by four movements — reconnect, repair, rebuild, reimagine. No two couples move through the work exactly the same way, but the shape holds:

• Reconnect — We slow the pattern down and look at what’s actually happening between you, without blame. Many couples feel relief early, because the pattern is no longer running the room.
• Repair — Where trust has been broken or hurt has built up, we make room for honesty, accountability, and understanding.
• Rebuild — We work with your patterns in real time — slowing escalation, repairing missed signals, staying connected through hard moments.
• Reimagine — You leave with a grounded understanding of what shifted and a clear plan for what comes next. Not a perfect relationship — a clearer, safer, more connected path forward.

You and your partner are never separated during this work. Every conversation happens together, in the room, side by side — because the goal isn’t for one of you to be understood by me. It’s for both of you to be understood by each other.

You’ll also leave with:

• A shared language for the cycle that doesn’t make either of you the problem
• Practical ways to slow escalation and repair faster
• Your roadmap updated to reflect the work we did — not a second plan, but the one you already have, moved forward
• A two-hour follow-up session about a week after your final day, in person or by video
• A recommendation for continuing care, so what shifts has time to take root — ongoing sessions with me, or coordination with your own couples therapist, with your consent

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Why this work goes deeper than communication skills

By the time a relationship feels stuck, the problem is usually deeper than communication. In an intensive, we work with what’s underneath — the automatic ways each of you protects, reacts, or withdraws when things feel unsafe.

For 17 years, I’ve worked exclusively with couples, integrating PACT®, TCT®, and attachment- and trauma-informed methods.

The goal isn’t just to talk about what needs to change. It’s to experience it.

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Investment

The investment reflects private, specialized couples work — extended sessions, preparation, and follow-up support, not a standard weekly therapy model.

The Second Half Intensive is offered in two formats: two days (10 hours) or three days (14 hours), each with four hours a day plus a two-hour follow-up session. It begins with the Relationship Roadmap, completed first and billed separately. The format is set before the Intensive begins; days aren’t added or extended. Continuing care afterward is recommended and billed as ongoing therapy.

Practical details

Before anything: free call

Thirty minutes by video, with both of you. We’ll talk about what’s bringing you here now, what you’ve already tried, and what you want to be different. Nothing is booked and nothing is owed — by the end you’ll know whether we’re a fit, and I’ll tell you honestly if we’re not.

Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners