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Perfect on Paper, but Still Not in Love

Perfect on Paper, but Still Not in Love

Why You’re Not Falling for the One Who Checks All the Boxes You’re not broken—your brain just knows what feels familiar. Have you ever dated someone who seemed ideal—kind, emotionally available, stable, attractive, successful—but still, something didn’t click? You’re...
4 Unspoken Rules of a Narcissistic Family

4 Unspoken Rules of a Narcissistic Family

What adult children of narcissists often struggle to unlearn When you grow up in a narcissistic family system, you’re not just dealing with difficult personalities—you’re absorbing unspoken rules about who you’re allowed to be. These “rules” aren’t written...
When Love Feels Like Work: Why You’re Not Failing—You’re Human

When Love Feels Like Work: Why You’re Not Failing—You’re Human

Love—real love—isn’t easy. It asks a lot from us. Vulnerability, patience, effort, reflection, forgiveness, growth. That’s the truth I see every day in my work as a marriage and family therapist. I meet couples who started out strong—hopeful, connected, full of shared...
The Secret to Feeling Loved and Energized in Your Relationship

The Secret to Feeling Loved and Energized in Your Relationship

How secure relationships can power your life and bring out the best in you and your partner Love that lifts you up Healthy, secure relationships give us something special: energy. Not just the kind that gets you out of bed, but a deep, lasting strength that carries...
Fear Gets You Moving. Anxiety Holds You Back. Here’s Why.

Fear Gets You Moving. Anxiety Holds You Back. Here’s Why.

The important difference between anxiety and fear Understanding emotions can be confusing, especially when fear and anxiety feel so similar. But they are actually very different, and knowing the difference can help us feel better and respond kindlier to ourselves....
The One Rule That Can Save Your Relationship

The One Rule That Can Save Your Relationship

Forget the lists. Focus on what really works. As couples therapists, my colleagues and I have shared all kinds of advice over the years—“7 Rules for Love,” “10 Steps to a Happy Relationship,” “5 Secrets for Better Communication.” But let’s be honest—if those lists...
The Power of Emotional Mindfulness: Living Like You Mean It

The Power of Emotional Mindfulness: Living Like You Mean It

Have you ever found yourself feeling stuck in repetitive emotional patterns—avoiding discomfort, suppressing feelings, or reacting automatically in ways that don’t serve you? If so, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle to be present with our emotions, often fearing...