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Couples Therapy in Boulder for Midlife Partners
Steady support for couples who still care but feel stuck in recurring conflict, distance, or silence. In person in Boulder, or online throughout Colorado.
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Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners
Is this you?
Most couples don’t reach out over one isolated argument. They reach out because something has been repeating for a while, and what used to feel manageable now feels harder to ignore.
This may be a good fit if you:
- Keep having the same unresolved conflicts
- Feel more like roommates, co-parents, or life managers than partners
- Are recovering from betrayal, secrecy, or broken trust
- Feel caught in a pursue-withdraw pattern — one of you reaches, the other pulls away
- Are facing a major life transition — empty nest, retirement, relocation, changing priorities
- Have tried therapy or self-help before but still feel stuck
You don’t need to have everything figured out before beginning. You only need enough willingness to look honestly at what’s happening between you.
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Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners
How the work goes
Couples therapy isn’t about deciding who’s right or who’s to blame. We focus on the relationship itself — the patterns that show up during conflict, distance, or hurt, patterns that often feel automatic and leave both of you feeling unseen or alone.
Together we slow those patterns down, understand what’s happening beneath the surface, and build new ways of responding — the same Safe With Each Other framework (reconnect, repair, rebuild, reimagine) behind all of my work with couples, whether we meet in ongoing sessions or over consecutive days in an Intensive.
How it begins
Every couple starts with the Relationship Roadmap — a guided process to understand your relationship fully. It ends with my recommendation for what comes next: ongoing couples therapy, the usual next step, or The Second Half Intensive. I recommend; you decide. You’ll also receive a one-page written summary, which we review together at your next session.
From there, ongoing sessions are two hours, weekly or every other week — enough time to move past surface conversation and build real momentum.
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What this work builds towards
Beneath the argument, the silence, or the distance, there’s usually a pattern that’s taken over — one of you reaching in a way that feels critical, the other protecting by withdrawing. Couples therapy helps you slow that cycle down and build something different:
- Less reactivity, more understanding — even in hard conversations
- More effective repair after conflict or disconnection
- Rebuilt trust where it’s been damaged
- More connection and partnership in daily life, not just at scheduled sessions
- A clearer shared vision for the next chapter of your relationship
This isn’t about becoming a perfect couple. It’s about learning to function more securely together, especially when things are hard.
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Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners
If you need something more concentrated
Most couples do their work in ongoing sessions. When the relationship feels urgent or deeply stuck, some couples also benefit from concentrated time.
The Second Half Intensive offers two or three consecutive days, four hours each day, in person in Boulder, with a follow-up session. It’s one of the two paths I may recommend at the end of your Roadmap.
Practical Details
Before anything: free call
Thirty minutes by video, with both of you. We’ll talk about what’s bringing you here now, what you’ve already tried, and what you want to be different. Nothing is booked and nothing is owed — by the end you’ll know whether we’re a fit, and I’ll tell you honestly if we’re not.
Free · 30 minutes · by video · both partners