The Hair-Trigger Reaction to Everyday Life You get a simple, kind of blunt email from your boss: “Where is your project on the share drive? I don’t see it. Please advise.” Suddenly, your whole day is ruined. Your heart starts pounding. Your mind...
I’ve noticed something troubling in PACT therapy circles lately. Some people are confusing co-regulation with codependency. This misunderstanding is causing real problems. People are rejecting helpful relationship tools because they think these tools will make...
Stop Playing Detective! You don’t need a diagnosis to know someone’s an asshole. Let me start with something that might sound harsh but needs to be said: sometimes the most accurate clinical diagnosis for someone’s behavior is simply “being an...
We’ve covered why breakups hurt so much and the three steps of healing. Now let’s talk about practical tools you can use and different ways your healing journey might look. When You Can’t Get Closure from Them One of the hardest parts of breakups is...
In the first part of this series, we talked about why breakups hurt so much more than people realize. Now, let’s talk about how to actually heal. Dr. Pascual-Leone has found that people who successfully get through breakups naturally follow three steps....
When someone you love breaks up with you, it doesn’t just hurt. It can feel like your whole world is falling apart. You might wonder why you feel so broken, especially when friends say things like “just get over it” or “there are other fish in...
Are you tired of feeling drained and unfulfilled in your relationships? Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner, leaving you feeling hurt and misunderstood? It’s time to understand the crucial differences between healthy...
This is the final post in our series on toxic anger patterns. If you’re just joining us, start with Post 1 for the complete picture. You’ve recognized the patterns. You understand it’s not your fault. You have strategies for protecting yourself. Now...
This is Post 4 in our series on toxic anger patterns. New here? Start with Post 1 to get the full context. You’ve recognized the patterns. You understand it’s not your fault. But what do you actually do when someone is raging at you? Here are strategies...
This is Post 3 in our series on recognizing toxic anger patterns. Catch up on Post 1 and Post 2 if you’re just joining us. If you’ve been dealing with toxic rage, you’ve probably spent countless hours analyzing your own behavior. What did you do...
