What to think through before your first session — and how to get the most out of the work once you’ve begun. Most couples arrive at the first session carrying two questions. The one they say out loud is can this be fixed. The quieter one, the one each of you is...
You did everything right — the good partnership, the life that works on paper. So why doesn’t it feel the way it’s supposed to? From the outside, it works. You’ve built a good life together — a home, a history, a partnership other people might envy....
You share a home, a calendar, maybe children and a mortgage. You’re polite. You cooperate. From the outside, everything runs smoothly. And yet, somewhere along the way, the two of you started to feel less like partners and more like roommates — two people...
A Boulder Couples Therapist Explains Many couples reach a point where the weekly hour just isn’t enough. You finish a session right as you’re getting to the heart of something — and then carry it, unfinished, through another busy week until you meet again....
Most couples come to that first session carrying something heavy. Maybe things have been tense for months. Maybe one of you pushed for this and the other agreed reluctantly. Maybe you’ve both been hoping for a change but aren’t sure this is the thing that...
Some couples come to therapy carrying wounds that go very deep. A discovery of infidelity. A broken promise that changes everything. A secret life that the betrayed partner never knew existed. When something like this happens, “I’m sorry” is not...
There’s a phrase that gets used a lot in relationship circles: choose your partner every day. It sounds simple. Maybe even a little greeting-card. But underneath it is something genuinely profound — and genuinely demanding — about what long-term love actually...
You didn’t plan for this. You chose each other deliberately, intentionally, with a clear sense of who you both were and what you both wanted. And for a long time, that felt solid. But people change. Sometimes gradually, almost imperceptibly. Sometimes through a...
Nobody warns you about this part. They warn you about the sleeplessness. The logistics. The way your priorities rearrange overnight. But very few people tell you what having a baby — or a toddler, or a teenager — actually does to your relationship with your partner....
One of you heads outside to clear your head. A trail run, a solo hike, an hour in the garden — time alone in nature is how you come back to yourself. The other one wants to do those things together. The mountains feel better shared. Solitude feels more like loneliness...
