Think about what it feels like to come home after a really hard day. Does your body relax when you see your partner? Or do you brace a little — just slightly — without even meaning to? Be honest. If your relationship has been struggling, you probably feel some of...
Every couple fights. But most couples have no idea what’s actually happening when they do. It’s easy to think it’s about the thing you’re fighting about. The dishes. The tone. The comment at dinner. The way your partner checked out during an...
You’ve probably heard the word “secure” used a lot when it comes to relationships. But what does it actually look like — not in a textbook, but on a real Tuesday, when you’re tired and overwhelmed and your partner is doing that thing that...
Your body knows before your brain does. When your partner says something that stings, you don’t stop and think about how to respond. Your body just reacts. Your heart speeds up. Your chest gets tight. Your voice comes out sharp — or you go completely quiet and...
If you’ve been searching for a couples therapist and came across the term PACT, you might be wondering: what is that, exactly? And how is it different from regular couples counseling? It’s a fair question. There are a lot of approaches to couples therapy,...
If you’ve never been to couples therapy before — or if you’ve tried it and it didn’t quite fit — knowing what to expect from a PACT session can make a real difference. PACT sessions don’t look like what most people picture when they imagine...
There’s a story most people tell themselves about couples therapy: it’s for couples who are in serious trouble. Contemplating separation. Recovering from an affair. Barely speaking. If things aren’t that bad, the thinking goes, you probably...
This is one of the first questions most couples ask — and it deserves an honest answer. The truth is: it depends. But that doesn’t mean it’s unknowable. There are real factors that shape the timeline, and understanding them can help you go in with...
Deciding to start couples therapy takes courage. You’ve had the conversation. You’ve agreed to try it. You’ve made the appointment. And now there’s a new feeling sitting alongside the relief: a low-grade nervousness about what you’re...
Something comes up a lot in couples therapy. People hear the word “co-regulation” and they get nervous. They think it sounds like codependency. So they pull away from it — even when it could really help them. Here’s the truth: co-regulation and...
