Break the Cycle: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationships
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Kara feels UNSUPPORTED.
Growing up with emotionally unavailable parents taught Kara that her needs didn’t matter. Now, despite her picture-perfect life – the beautiful home, successful career, loving husband – that early wound still aches. She feels unsupported because deep down, she learned she wasn’t worth supporting.
Kara feels INADEQUATE.
The critical voice in Kara’s head sounds exactly like her mother’s. No matter what she achieves, it’s never enough. In her marriage, she constantly fears she’s failing, that gnawing anxiety in her stomach a familiar companion from those formative years when nothing she did could earn her parents’ approval.
Kara feels UNHEARD.
When Kara tries to share her feelings with her husband and he seems indifferent, it triggers every moment from her past when her voice was dismissed. The little girl who learned to stay quiet to avoid conflict is still running the show, leaving adult Kara feeling invisible and small.
Mark feels ALONE.
Friday nights remind Mark of his youth – coming home to chaos, never knowing what mood would greet him. Now he provides stability for his family, but that old familiar loneliness creeps in. The boy who learned to be self-sufficient because no one else was reliable still struggles to truly connect.
Mark feels UNAPPRECIATED.
Mark learned early that his worth came from what he could provide, not who he was. His father showed love through working long hours, never through presence. Now Mark works tirelessly for his family’s approval, but the criticism he hears echoes the impossible standards from his family of origin.
Mark feels HOPELESS.
Despite his best efforts, Mark can’t seem to break through to his wife – just like he could never reach his emotionally distant parents. The helpless child who couldn’t fix his family’s dysfunction has grown into a man who still believes love means suffering in silence.
Lisa feels BAD.
After another failed relationship, Lisa hears her inner critic – a voice that sounds suspiciously like the parent who made her feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions. The little girl who was told she was “too much” and “too sensitive” has grown into a woman convinced she’s fundamentally flawed.
Lisa feels OVERWHELMED.
Lisa says yes to everything because the child in her learned that being needed meant being loved. But just like in her chaotic family home growing up, she’s drowning under everyone else’s expectations while her own needs go unmet.
Lisa feels DRAINED.
Growing up as the family caretaker taught Lisa that other people’s feelings mattered more than her own. Now she gives and gives until there’s nothing left, that familiar guilt from her past surfacing whenever she considers putting herself first.
The only way out of something is all the way through it. — Maya Angelou
Break the Cycle. I can help.
When early patterns keep showing up in your adult relationships, it’s time to heal at the root. Professional help can guide you toward breaking these cycles and creating the secure love you deserve.
Kara’s pain runs deep because it’s familiar – the same emotional abandonment she felt growing up now haunts her marriage. She longs to break free from the old programming that tells her she’s too much, not enough, and fundamentally unlovable. What she craves isn’t just support from her husband, but freedom from the wounded part within who still believes love has to be earned.
Mark’s pain echoes through generations – he’s repeating his father’s pattern of showing love through provision while emotionally withdrawing. He yearns to connect authentically with his family, but the boy who learned that feelings were dangerous is still protecting the man. He longs to break the cycle of emotional unavailability that’s been passed down through his family line.
Lisa’s world is shaped by early survival patterns that no longer serve her. The anxiety, overwhelm, and emotional exhaustion all trace back to being the family caretaker who learned her worth came from managing everyone else’s feelings. She longs to reclaim herself, to finally put down the burden of responsibility that was never hers to carry, and to love from wholeness instead of woundedness.
Kara, Mark, and Lisa all want to break the cycles and heal their relationships.
Ready to Transform Your Relationships?
Kara and her husband committed to understanding how their early experiences were creating conflict in their marriage. Through couples therapy, they learned to recognize when their wounded inner parts were driving their interactions. They developed skills to soothe each other’s old wounds while building the secure partnership they both craved.
Mark initially resisted therapy, just like his father resisted vulnerability. But as he began to understand how his family patterns were affecting his marriage, he discovered that healing his past was the key to connecting with his wife. Together, they learned to create the emotional safety neither had experienced growing up.
Lisa began her journey by exploring how her family of origin had shaped her relationship patterns. She joined a trauma-focused group where she learned she wasn’t alone in her struggles. Through individual and group work, she developed healthy boundaries, learned to recognize her worth, and finally began choosing partners who could meet her emotionally.
Kara, Mark, and Lisa all chose to heal their past to transform their relationships.
If you’re ready to break the cycles and create the secure love you deserve,
whether with yourself or your partner, reach out.
The names and stories are fictionalized composites of real clients whom I’ve helped.
“There is nothing in the world more difficult than another human.”
– Stan Tatkin
Hi, I’m Teena.
Break the cycle. Heal your story. Transform your relationships.
I’m Teena Evert, and I specialize in helping people break free from the patterns that keep them stuck in unfulfilling relationships.
This work is personal for me. I’ve walked this path myself—untangling enmeshment, breaking free from toxic family roles, and learning how to reclaim my voice and boundaries from the inside out. I know what it’s like to realize that your past is running your present, and I know what it takes to change it.
My mission is relationship recovery—helping individuals and couples heal the impact of early trauma so they can create the secure, authentic love they deserve.
I’m your guide if you’re ready to:
- Understand how your family of origin shaped your relationship patterns
- Break cycles that have been passed down through generations
- Develop the skills for secure, healthy partnerships
- Create the family legacy you want to leave
How I can help:
Trauma-Focused Groups using the Relationship Recovery Process for adult survivors ready to heal in community and break old patterns together
Individual Therapy for deep trauma healing work that gets to the root of relationship struggles
PACT Couples Therapy for partners who want to create secure-functioning relationships grounded in mutual care, safety, and emotional attunement
My approach combines transformative trauma care with cutting-edge relationship science. I use experiential, body-based, and psychobiological tools because healing happens in relationship and in real time—not just in your head.
You don’t have to repeat your family’s story. The cycle can end with you.
“This place where you are right now, God circled on a map for you.”
– Hafiz
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