FAQ
Getting Started
Where can we meet with you?
I see couples in person at my private office in Boulder, Colorado, and through telehealth.
In person:
767 Pearl Street, Suite 220
Boulder, CO 80302
Online:
Telehealth is available for couples when appropriate.
What are your hours?
I see couples Tuesday through Thursday from 10am to 6pm, and Friday from 10am to 2pm.
How do we get started?
The best first step is to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.
This gives us a chance to talk about what is bringing you in, answer your questions, and determine whether ongoing couples therapy or a Marriage Intensive may be the best fit.
What is a free consultation?
The consultation is a free 30-minute video call for both partners.
It is not a therapy session. It is a real conversation where you can share what has been happening in your relationship, ask questions, and get a sense of how I work.
I will also ask a few questions to better understand your situation and help determine whether this is the right fit. If I believe another kind of support would serve you better, I will tell you honestly.
How should be prepare for the consultation?
You do not need to prepare anything formal.
It may help to briefly consider:
- What has been most difficult in your relationship recently?
- What have you already tried?
- What would you most like to see change?
- What would a successful outcome look like for each of you?
There are no right or wrong answers. The consultation is simply a starting place.
Working Together
With whom do you work?
I work exclusively with couples, with a particular focus on midlife partners navigating the challenges and transitions that often emerge in long-term relationships.
Many of the couples I work with have built full lives together, but find themselves struggling with emotional distance, recurring conflict, betrayal, uncertainty, or a growing sense that they have lost each other somewhere along the way.
I work with couples who are ready to look honestly at the patterns between them and invest time, attention, and care into creating something more secure and connected.
What can we expect in couples therapy?
Couples therapy is not about deciding who is right, who is wrong, or who is to blame.
In our work together, we focus on the relationship itself: the patterns that emerge between you during stress, conflict, distance, misunderstanding, or hurt. As those patterns become clearer, we can begin creating new ways of responding that build more trust, emotional safety, and connection.
How are couples therapy sessions structured?
Because meaningful couples work takes time, sessions are longer than traditional therapy appointments.
First session: 3 hours
This gives us time to understand your relationship history, current challenges, strengths, and recurring patterns.
Follow-up sessions: 90–120 minutes
Longer sessions allow us to move beyond surface-level conversations and work with what happens between you in real time.
Why are couples sessions longer?
Fifty-minute sessions are often not enough time for deeper couples work.
It takes time to understand the patterns driving conflict or disconnection, work with what emerges between you, and help both partners return to a more grounded place before the session ends.
Longer sessions create more space for meaningful movement, repair, and integration.
Do you recommend individual therapy alongside couples therapy?
Sometimes, yes.
There are moments in couples work when something surfaces that may need more individual attention than a shared session can hold. If I believe individual therapy would support the work, I will tell you directly.
That said, it is not always necessary. Many couples do meaningful work together without individual therapy running alongside it.
Marriage Intensives
How is a Marriage Intensive different from weekly couples therapy?
A Marriage Intensive gives us concentrated time to focus deeply on your relationship over two consecutive days.
Instead of stopping just as important material begins to emerge, we have time to understand the patterns keeping you stuck, work with them in real time, and create a clearer roadmap for moving forward.
Do we need to be in crisis to choose an intensive?
No.
Some couples choose a Marriage Intensive because they are in crisis or facing a significant rupture. Others choose it because they want meaningful change sooner and do not want to spread the work across many months.
You may feel disconnected, uncertain, or tired of repeating the same patterns without being in an immediate crisis.
What if we have tried couples therapy before?
Many couples who choose an intensive have tried couples therapy before.
Sometimes previous therapy helped create insight, but did not lead to the kind of lasting change the couple hoped for. The intensive format allows us to work more deeply and directly with the patterns that are still happening between you.
Is the intensive private?
Yes.
Each Marriage Intensive is private, personalized, and focused entirely on your relationship. We work together in a confidential setting without a group format.
What happens after the intensive?
Approximately one week after the intensive, we meet for a two-hour follow-up session.
This gives us time to reinforce what shifted, address what has come up since the intensive, and refine your roadmap for continuing the work in daily life.
How do we know whether couples therapy or a Marriage Intensive is right for us?
You do not need to know before reaching out.
During the consultation, we will talk about what is bringing you in, what you are hoping to change, and whether ongoing couples therapy or a Marriage Intensive is the better fit for your relationship.
My Approach
What is your experience as a therapist?
For nearly two decades, I’ve worked exclusively with couples.
My path into this work has always been shaped by an interest in how people heal, change, and relate. Before becoming a couples therapist, my background included work in biology, body-based healing, therapeutic yoga, and rehabilitation. Those experiences still influence how I understand relationships today: not just as conversations, but as emotional, physical, and relational systems.
In my work with couples, I help partners understand and change the patterns that create conflict, distance, mistrust, and disconnection.
What do you care about most when working with couples?
I care about meaningful change.
That means I am not only paying attention to whether a session feels productive in the moment, but whether something is actually shifting between you over time.
I work to understand what is happening beneath the surface, stay curious when things get complicated, and tell you directly what I am seeing when it may help the work move forward.
My goal is to help couples create something real: a relationship that feels safer, more honest, more connected, and more secure.
What is your education and training?
I hold a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology and am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Colorado.
My advanced training includes PACT® — the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy, TCT® — Transformative Couples Therapy, AEDP®, attachment-based approaches, trauma-informed work, somatic approaches, sex and intimacy training, and HeartMath®.
What matters most is how this training comes together in the room. My approach helps couples work not only with insight and communication, but with the deeper emotional, attachment, and nervous system patterns that shape how partners respond to each other under stress.
What are your own personal experiences with therapy?
I have done my own deeper work, and I believe that matters.
I know what it is like to look honestly at old patterns, understand where they came from, and practice choosing something different. That does not make my story the focus of your therapy, but it does shape how I sit with couples who are doing courageous and difficult work.
I do not ask couples to go anywhere I have not been willing to go myself.
Investment & Policies
Why are your rates higher than some other couples therapists?
Because this is specialized couples work with longer sessions, advanced training, and a depth-oriented approach.
Couples therapy requires a different skill set than individual therapy. I have spent years training specifically in couples therapy, attachment, trauma-informed care, experiential approaches, and nervous system-informed work so I can help couples address the patterns that keep them stuck.
The format is also different. Sessions are 90 minutes to 3 hours, not 50 minutes. That gives us time to work with what is happening between you in real time and help both partners leave feeling more grounded.
When you invest in this work, you are investing in focused, specialized support for one of the most important relationships in your life.
Do you accept insurance?
No. This is a private-pay practice.
I do not bill insurance or provide superbills for couples work. Insurance typically requires identifying one partner as the patient and assigning a diagnosis. In couples therapy, I view the relationship as the client, not one partner as the problem.
This allows us to keep the focus where it belongs: on the patterns, dynamics, and healing needed between you.
Why do you require payment in advance?
Payment in advance reserves your time and supports a clear commitment to the work.
Couples therapy asks for time, attention, honesty, and investment from both partners. Taking care of payment ahead of time allows us to begin the session focused on the relationship, not logistics.
What if cost is a concern?
It is completely appropriate to talk about the investment before beginning.
During the consultation, we can discuss the structure, fees, and whether ongoing couples therapy or a Marriage Intensive is the better fit for your needs, timing, and resources.
Resources
What relationship books do you recommend?
I often recommend books by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, the founder of PACT® — the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy.
His work helps couples better understand attachment, the nervous system, conflict, and what it means to build a secure-functioning relationship.
A few recommended titles include:
- Wired for Love
- In Each Other’s Care
- We Do
- Your Brain on Love
- Relationship RX
If we work together, I may recommend a specific book or audiobook based on what would best support your relationship.
Still Have Questions?
The best way to know whether this work is the right fit is to begin with a conversation.
During a free consultation, we can talk about what is bringing you in, answer your questions, and determine whether ongoing couples therapy or a Marriage Intensive is the best next step.