About
Breaking cycles and building better relationships.
Do you feel stuck in the same patterns, unsure why your relationships don’t work out, or exhausted from emotional ups and downs?
You’re not alone.
Many of us carry wounds from the past that shape the way we connect with others, handle emotions, and cope with stress.
But the good news?
You can break free. You can heal.
I can help you understand yourself better, find healthier ways to navigate relationships, and regain control over your life.
Choosing better, loving smarter.
If you find yourself drawn to unavailable or toxic people, struggling with intimacy, or feeling stuck in imbalanced relationships, it might be time to take a deeper look.
Together, we explore why these patterns exist and how to choose partners who truly support and respect you.
Emotional healing and self-trust.
Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or stuck in survival mode?
Learning to manage your emotions in a healthy way can bring more peace, confidence, and balance to your life.
I’ll help you recognize triggers, shift from negativity to neutrality, and find stability in relationships, work, and personal growth.
Turning struggles into strengths.
How do you deal with pain?
Do you escape through distractions, unhealthy habits, or self-sabotage?
Many of us develop coping mechanisms that protect us in the short term but hold us back in the long run.
Here, I’ll help you focus on shifting from avoidance to real healing—so you can move forward instead of feeling stuck.
Small steps lead to big changes.
Healing isn’t about being perfect. It’s about understanding yourself, making small changes, and learning to trust yourself again.
You are not broken. You are growing. And you don’t have to do it alone.
Let’s start this journey together.
About Teena Evert, MA, LMFT, BCC
Breaking cycles, building secure love.
I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, PACT Couples Therapist, and trauma specialist who helps people transform their relationship patterns from the ground up.
My expertise lies at the intersection of trauma healing and relationship recovery. I understand how early experiences shape adult partnerships, and I know the specific work it takes to break free from generational patterns and create secure, lasting love.
I specialize in relationship recovery through:
Trauma-Focused Groups using the Relationship Recovery Process – helping adult survivors heal in community while developing skills for healthier relationships
Individual Therapy for healing childhood trauma, breaking family patterns, and developing secure attachment skills
PACT Couples Therapy for partners ready to create emotionally safe, secure-functioning relationships
I work with people who are ready to do the deeper work – those who recognize that surface-level changes aren’t enough and want to heal at the root. My clients are tired of repeating the same patterns and ready to break the cycles that have been passed down through generations.
My approach is trauma-informed, relationally focused, and grounded in both cutting-edge science and deep compassion. Whether we work together in person in Boulder, CO or online throughout the US, the goal is always the same: helping you create the secure, authentic relationships you deserve.
You can be the one who breaks the cycle in your family line.
My training in relationship recovery.
I hold a master’s degree in clinical psychology with specialized training in adult attachment, trauma healing, and relationship dynamics. My education focuses on the intersection of developmental neuroscience and relational healing—understanding how early experiences shape our capacity for love and connection.
My clinical journey began with a clear calling: helping people break free from the patterns that keep them stuck in painful relationship cycles. I’ve dedicated my career to understanding how childhood trauma shows up in adult partnerships and developing effective approaches for healing at the root.
What drives my work is the belief that we don’t have to be prisoners of our past. With the right support and proven methods, people can heal generational trauma, develop secure attachment, and create the healthy relationships they’ve always wanted.
I’m committed to ongoing learning because this work demands it—trauma recovery and relationship healing require the most current, effective approaches available.
Why I do this work.
I know what it’s like to be trapped by invisible patterns. Growing up, I learned survival strategies that protected me then but sabotaged my relationships later. I know the pain of repeating cycles you swore you’d never repeat, of feeling broken when you’re actually just responding to old programming.
I’ve walked the path of breaking free. I’ve done the hard work of untangling enmeshment, setting boundaries with toxic family dynamics, and learning to love from wholeness instead of woundedness. I’ve faced the truth about how my past was running my present—and I chose to change it.
This work is personal because the stakes are personal. Every client who breaks a generational pattern means a child who won’t inherit that wound. Every couple who learns secure love means a family legacy transformed. Every person who heals their attachment trauma means the cycle stops with them.
I see what others miss. I recognize the wounded child driving adult relationship decisions. I spot the family patterns playing out in marriages. I understand how trauma responses masquerade as personality flaws. That clarity comes from living it, healing it, and helping hundreds of others do the same.
I don’t shy away from the deep work. Surface-level changes create surface-level results. Real transformation happens when we’re willing to face our patterns, feel our feelings, and do the sometimes messy work of rewiring our nervous systems for secure love.
This isn’t just my profession—it’s my stand against settling for the relationships our families modeled. I’m here to help you become the cycle-breaker, the pattern-changer, the one who creates the love story your lineage has been waiting for.
In the wake of my father’s passing in October 2021, I felt compelled to share my soul journey through the grief. This led to the publication of Cracked Open: Healing from the Pain of Loss in February 2022. The book offers a deeply personal perspective and a fresh outlook on overcoming life’s challenges, making life a little more manageable. It’s a lifeline for anyone dealing with grief, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or significant life changes. Please see my page on Grief and Loss.
A little more about me.
I practice what I teach. Creating secure relationships and breaking old patterns isn’t just my work—it’s how I live. I’m committed to staying connected to myself so I can show up authentically for others.
Nature is my therapy. You’ll find me scrambling Colorado’s peaks, skiing backcountry, or backpacking into the alpine. These adventures aren’t just recreation—they’re how I regulate my nervous system, process life, and remember what matters. The mountains teach me about resilience, presence, and finding your way even when the path isn’t clear.
I prioritize practices that keep me grounded: strength training, Kaiut Yoga, daily meditation, and annual silent retreats in the woods. These aren’t luxuries—they’re necessities for someone who holds space for others’ healing. I can’t guide you toward secure attachment if I’m not cultivating it myself.
I value chosen family and authentic community. The “friends family” in my life are people who’ve done their own work, who show up with honesty and heart. These relationships model what’s possible when people commit to growing together rather than staying stuck in old patterns.
This lifestyle isn’t accidental—it’s intentional healing in action. Every boundary I maintain, every relationship I nurture, every way I care for myself demonstrates the secure functioning I help my clients create. I live the work because I believe in it.